Is this guy on the the take or what??
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Is this guy on the the take or what??
| Thu, 12-11-2003 - 7:58am |
I have been having an EMA for nearly a year now. In this time he has never met me if sex cannot be had. I have often aksed him (or at least suggested nicely) that we meet for a simple coffee or dinner, go to the movies whatever. But nothing doing. He only wants to meet for sex and that two for an hour aor two in between commitments.
He phones every day and emails a lot. I havent seen him now in a month because the sordid motel he books into for a couple of hours has been unavailable.
My question is am I wrong in expecting us to meet for a simple walk in a park, or cafe in the course of an affair? Is it wrong to expect companionship?
Is an A with a MM only limited to sexual meets on his terms with no dinner or drinks involved.
He also withholds affection if I cant because of my own commitments turn up for these lightning meets.
I mean can anyone tell me what to do?
Desperate

Good Luck and Hugs to you,
~Blue
you do realize you're not dating, you're having an A, huge difference there. no walks in the park, dinner and a movie, none of that matters to MM. he obviously wants just the sex and is unwilling to do ANYTHING else with you, so the ball's in your court sweetie!
if you want to change the rules, you have to be ready to walk away when MM says "no way". sorry to be so direct, but i just cannot believe you're posting a question with such an obvious answer!
gurl
Seeburg
Once again the gurl is right -- "you do realize you're not dating, you're having an A, huge difference there." That's it in a nutshell. If it started off sex, it most likely will stay sex. I know how you feel (and I think most of the people here do as well). There is only so much you can get out of these relationships.
If it's not making you happy -- STOP. (Easier said than done, I know).
Good luck.
Charlotte