Guys' Point of View Needed....
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Guys' Point of View Needed....
| Fri, 04-02-2004 - 1:45pm |
I asked my MM to give me some insight on what path our relationship is on. As you already know, I'm going through a divorce right now and (not splitting up because of the A - my STBxH doesn't know about MM) MM has been a rock for me through this. We've never really had the "relationship" talk....but I did want to know where he put me in his life. Is the R for "fun" or is it more serious (which it is).
He replied "As far as what the future holds, you need to know that I plan to be a part of your life...who knows in what capacity that will be...but since the most important part I can have in your life is friend, that's what I will always be, no matter where life takes both of us in the future..."
Could someone help me with this? I love him with all my heart, but I want to be realistic. I have told him that I don't expect anything from him just because I'm getting divorced. I want to just have him in my life in whatever manner he needed. I know he needs time because of his marital situation, but his reply is a bit cryptic.
Any insight, guys?

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On the other, he is not making false promises or ones that he cannot keep. Plus maybe he's thinking that you may meet someone else down the line after you are single.
Give it time and see what happens. But I would have taken what he said to be a good thing.
Dusty
but I am no guy...so maybe it could be interpretted some other crazy way that I don't know about and if so please let me know so I can get the giggle....
Kikki
nry, you are in control of your life's course now. you are guiding your life now. unfortunately, MM is still controlled by his M and the responsibilities of that situation. MM will always be around for you, if you let him. it's all up to you honey.
life
The only thing I would say concerns me is you two don't seem to communicate in the same way. Are you sure he wants the same things out of life you do? I know you love him and that is obviously crucial. But as many of us have discovered, love isn't enough. I don't think he sounds like a bad person at all, I just hope he is able to open up and share his feelings. You don't want to be married to him down the road and have to pry his feelings out of him.
But I think he is probably just being cautious. He doesn't want to promise you something he won't be able to deliver. Give it time.
life
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