H confronted Ap who is his bf too.

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Registered: 05-29-2008
H confronted Ap who is his bf too.
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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 10:05am

D day happend but with no proof, I guess we made it through but seems without each other.

 

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Registered: 10-11-2007
Fri, 09-12-2008 - 4:45pm

GC~
Girl I'm sorry that you are getting blasted for this.

Falling for a friend of family is the last thing we ever think we will do. But given the many situations in which families include each other it is easy to do. You get to know the person during more intimate times than you would say at the work place. You know their family histories, their kids, their highg points and their low points. It becomes a situation that becuz you know each other so intimate that boundaries get broken adn overlooked. Having been there myself I know how easy this can happen.

That out of the way I also know on the downside how hard it can be to break it off with somebody that is close to family, or to have a D-day with someone who is close to family. Especially if the D-day revolves around just accusations, no solid proof. It is harder becuz you will still see each other in family situations and you have to act as if nothing has happened. You still must carry on communication during these times. Which can seriously tug at heart strings. You can't just go NC. Your H will still invite friend over. He may still be questioning your interactions between each other. And sometimes they will invite them over just to stab and rip open the heart a lil further.

You must be strong girl, and be careful not to raise any flags. Do not do anything that would elicit any thought that you two are communicating. It is hard I'm not gonna sugar coat that one at all. You have told yourself your M is over and have sought legal advice. That my friend is one step closer than me to start the healing process. I am not in a position to leave my M nor is AP.

I know Btrue has great advice to offer too. Lean on us when you need advice or a helping hand. Afterall this is a support board.

Stay strong,
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Registered: 08-02-2000
Sun, 09-14-2008 - 2:14am
Your husband may be jealous and has been wrong in the past. I get that. But I don't think you're really getting what people are saying here. The point isn't that your husband has been jealous and accused you of things. The point is that THIS time, he's dead on. All I am saying is that you shouldn't be incredulous about that. You should be concerned with preventing this from blowing up in your, your AP, your husband and his wife's face. If you're planning on continuing this affair, you need to be real discrete, because if he suspects, you can bet the farm on he's watching you real close. And you may be starting to seriously consider divorce, but I can almost guarantee that he isn't and won't. That's pretty much how it turns out most of the time.
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Registered: 05-29-2008
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 8:52am

Thanks for your support.


We had to spend some time together this weekend with each other's families there.

 

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