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| Tue, 02-03-2004 - 9:25am |
I told MM about my resolution and so far it's been the smartest thing I ever did. Every day with him is more beautiful than the last. He compliments me, he makes extra efforts to be around me, he flirts... It's what I wanted it to be all last year, day after day, and it's because I don't give in. Today, for instance, we were moving some equipment and we ended up alone together. He said, "Wouldn't it be nice to close this door and just strip down naked." I moved to the other side of the truck, laughing, and said, "Yeah, for about thirty minutes. Then it would be heck (not my exact word!) on earth." He said, "Well, it'd be longer than thirty minutes." I said, "But the pain and guilt would last the rest of my life. I don't think it would be worth it." Mind you, his comment was said in jest but before January I would have gone along with it and fed the fantasy. This time I injected realism into it. Had I given in and continued to give in, in just a couple of weeks he would have gotten scared and started pushing me away. But when I'm being so strong, he has no need to push me away. Anyway, it's an interesting experiment that has paid off for FOUR WEEKS RUNNING. This is a record for us and it's not even hard to resist him anymore.
Anyway, just wanted to share my experience in the hope that it might help someone else. I keep things light, fun, I flirt, I feed his ego (BIG TIME), but I never, ever cross that line. As long as it continues to work, I'll keep on going!

good morning lilah and HOORAY!!
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
PS. If you don't have a lot of layers to begin with...Houston we have a problem.
whew, lilah -- you are full of questions today, aren't ya!!
well, honey, you did slip a bit, but not full-on sledding down the hill.
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board