Happiness tied to contact

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Registered: 03-29-2004
Happiness tied to contact
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 10:50pm
Don't you just hate how your mood is tied to how much contact you have with MM?

When we are together, when we talk, when he messages me, I get happy, like nothing could stop me.

But then when those times go by where we don't talk, when I am sitting on my hands, I feel so sad.

And I'm lucky. I usually receive some sort of contact every day, despite MM having a very hectic schedule.

Sigh.

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Registered: 03-10-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 11:55am
And apparently I'm another in a long line! We only are in contact during the work week and I seem to spend SO much time looking for that "new mail" icon on my computer screen! We usually email tons during the day, but all of a sudden this week, we aren't. Instead, late in the afternoon one of us will start the "hey I missed you today" message and then we mention how odd it is not to be emailing all day and that's it. Very weird and I don't know what to make of it.

I agree also that it's frustrating to have so little control over my emotions. What the heck is that?

Yikes - weird day today, so I'll just offer everyone my support.

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Registered: 03-30-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:01pm
To All of You,

I feel the very same way. I even thought to myself yesterday how he can make or break me with one gesture towards contacting me. We have had a major turmoil at work and so we didn't really talk to each other yesterday, only a couple of emails. I went by his room at lunch and he was at the computer with a couple of kids and when I spoke .... didn't even acknowledge I was there............I am just floored by his back and forth behavior. I would think it was only indecision on his part but this has been going on for 15 months.........shouldn't he know how he feels by now?????


Same crap different day!!!!!!!! My heart goes out to all of us that are consumed and let our emotions about A control our moods!!!

:)

Kitty

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Registered: 03-23-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:02pm
Are you seeing the same person I am? Seems like my situation is

exactly like yours..waiting for the e-mail signal......

We both should talk. Maybe we can all help each other. Like I

have said before I am consumed.

If I do not hear from him all day, I start having feelings of

rejection, fear, and lonliness. I hear from him and all

is wonderful again. The only thing that bothers me is all the

emotional ups and downs. I am either laughing, feeling wonderful

or crying.

Thanks for eveyones support.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:08pm
We'd better not be seeing the same person! LOL!!

Darn technology anyway!!

My MM is really struggling with our relationship - and he drives our roller coaster. I know I shouldn't let him do that, but I'm pretty sure if I pushed, he'd back off altogether. We've tried being "just friends" and it doesn't work out too well. Although, I've never allowed myself the chance to get over missing him!

Yesterday he said "do you really think that I could forget you"? So I guess I'll hang on to that and let him work his demons. It wouldn't kill me to pay a little bit of attention to work anyway!!

Post whenever you like - I'll watch for you and try to offer the limited input I can.

Hugs -

What

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Registered: 03-23-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:23pm
I know what your saying. I hold on to all the e-mail compliments also.

It is also amazing what we hold onto. Little remarks, compliments

and words of passion, especially the latter. Have you ever

e-mailed your passion? I mean what you want to do together,

how you feel when your together? I cannot help but dream every

nite of what it would feel like to make love. Have you made love

yet with him?

Thanks for your input. Also, are you both married? No kids?

That is my situation, bad, hugh?

Bunny

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:34pm
I don't know that I'd call it passion as much as lust - that man turns my stomach inside out and apparently I have a "pleasant" effect on him too! LOL

We are both M, I have 3 step-children and he has 1 step-daughter, although he and W lost a pregnancy last year pretty late and are trying to get pregnant again.

I hope this makes a bit of sense, but I don't intend to "make love" to him - just have great sex. We are not sleeping together yet, and that's definitely his choice, not mine. He seems to think that as long as we don't actually do the deed, we're not really cheating - although anything else goes! We have no intentions to love each other - we both love our spouses and don't plan to make any changes there. I adore him - he's a great friend and great fun. But that's it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-23-2004
Wed, 04-14-2004 - 12:49pm
I keep telling myself it is just going to be sex also, but the

heart keep getting in the way. You are both lucky, in a way

you want the sex, but you both are still in love with your

spouces. I am friends with my H over

18years, and maybe it is not love I am feeling, but lust also.


I guess it is too early to tell, maybe we are having the

mid-life stuff, anyway thanks for the input.

Bunny

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