Happy Birthday To Me

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Registered: 08-02-2013
Happy Birthday To Me
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Wed, 07-09-2014 - 3:33pm

Today is my birthday.  I have not heard from my ap and it pisses me off.  A quick phone call would be nice, didn't happen.  What a jerk, so thoughtless.  How do you guys handle this?  Has it happened to anyone else?  We've been together 5 1/2 yrs. 

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 07-09-2014 - 6:34pm

Having been in several affairs before, I learnt one thing: Keep your expectations low.  Better yet, don't expect anything.  That way you don't get disappointed.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Wed, 07-09-2014 - 11:50pm

I'm with demontespan........you settle for an affair, you get what you settled for........not much.  He owes you nothing.  Some guys are nice and remember things like birthdays, many don't.  Many husbands don't remember either.  You get what you got.....someone else's reject probably.

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Registered: 06-03-2012
Thu, 07-10-2014 - 9:20am
Despite what the others have said, you have every right to have expectations in a relationship - whatever type it may be. And yes you should be pissed that he hasn't made contact with you on your birthday, and this is something you make loud and clear to him. I have been in my A for almost 5 years where my AP has either text or called me at the turn of 12am on the day of my birthday - and further to that contact, he's made a big hoo ha for everyone of my birthdays. Fissatore - just because you were someone's reject at some point in your life, does not mean we all were.
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Registered: 06-07-2004
Thu, 07-10-2014 - 1:32pm

As with any relationship, if you don't like something, you let your partner know what they did or did not do, that caused you to become upset. They will either keep doing it, or not. If it's a dealbreaker, then don't see him anymore. If it is part of a pattern you are seeing where he is repeatedly being inconsiderate and insensitive, then you can definitely do better than being treated like that.

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Registered: 06-14-2014
Thu, 07-10-2014 - 3:47pm

Why are you always so HATEFUL?  If you don't agree with affairs because of what happened to you then get on another board.  There are others for after the affair and such.  If you want to stay on this one, I would imagine alot of us would like you to be supportive as the is a support board.  

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Registered: 06-14-2014
Thu, 07-10-2014 - 3:49pm

This was in reply to Fissatore comment.

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Registered: 11-11-2013
Sat, 07-12-2014 - 2:16am

Fissatore - How many posters on here have told you to back off,I have lost count.All I can say is if Fissatore  responds to your post  just skip over it .