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| Fri, 08-06-2010 - 11:29am |
After my AP spent some holiday time with his wife he backed off a bit. I completely understood and didn't push it. He said the guilt was getting to him since things in his marriage were changing for the better. After no contact from me for 5 days due to holidays he must have forgotten about it.
Quick recap: My AP and I have been good friends for many years and both always fought the urges. Eventually we started texting and they got more flirtatious until pics were sent. We started talking on MSN and it got heavy fast. We both tried leaving our marriages but it was harder than we both thought. He knows I will leave anytime but he has decided for now to stick it out because he doesn't want to have to start out all over again. We are going to have a week together in a month or so, then stop after that.
I'm hoping he changes his mind. I love him and have for a long time. He is a very emotional guy and talks about his feelings lots. I know him well enough before any of this started to know this is not the norm for him. I really am hoping he changes his mind during that week and wants to be with me. He has already said he doesn't know if he can stay away from me, but neither or us want to be cheaters.

Lost, I hope from the bottom of my heart that your AP comes back to you.One thing I know for sure,the more you try to fight off the inevitable,the stronger the feelings grow,no matter what you do.Its best to let them flow- it will either run its course or you will end up happier together.You cant just erase memories and feelings of love.
You are in a sticky place but I hope it works out the way you want it to.
Love is beautiful.
ok with all due respect , it seems the fate of your marriage depends on weather AP decides to leave his marriage & come back to you or not ? so you will be stringing your spouse along until AP changes his mind & comes to you ? sounds like a good plan .
Best of luck