this is harder than expected...

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2004
this is harder than expected...
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 4:33pm
I am so happy to find this board. I am new here and will share my story as I plan to keep up on this board as there is noone I can talk to about this.

My A started off as being an emotional one and I knew that wouldn't last due to the attraction we both had for eachother. About two months ago we took this to the next level and I am still gloating! I am a client of his and we meet twice a week and take advantage of the time we have (my name stands for Monday, Wednesday girl).

This is so much harder than I thought it would be though. I think of OM all the time and just want to spend all my time with him, however we have never gotten together outside of our appointments. I think it's too early to tell where this will go and we have not talked about it. I would like to get things out in the open but don't want to scare him away, but obviously this is something we will need to talk about eventually.

H is amazing but after years of marriage he does not listen to me when I talk about what I need-- so I have decided to be selfish and get what I need!

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. I think this board will help me keep my sanity!





iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 4:43pm
Before you go any further, imagine your life without your H in it. I mean really think about it, your past, all the fun you have shared, the emotions, his strengths, the reasons you fell in love with him and married him, everything that makes your relationship what it is. I've been there and would never go back, not in a million years for all the money in the world. I understand all the feelings I really do and can relate to a lot of what is said here but regret all the hurt I caused and will tell you right now that it was not worth it. I am happy for the fact that my H was willing to forgive me and work through it so that we could have the relationship that we have now, which is one you read about in storybooks (no lie).

One of two things is GOING to happen, your husband will find out and you will leave him for the OM - OR - your husband will find out and you will work it out with him. There is no inbetween, just be prepared for either end of the scales.