Lets say an affair couple was fouund out by wife. That wife has no right to call or what ever she uses to communicate, the ow husband. Why add more pain. She needs to deal with her own husband , not some one elses.the same goes for the husband telling the om wife. Imo it should not be done. You dont know the kind of damage you can causer to some ones life by revealing that kind of information.
This board is for those looking for support from the AP side, not the spouse side... there are several other boards for those that are in that situation.
"In fact I think it would be called a 'stone throwing party' in these modern times we live in."
In fact, it was usually only the adulterous woman who was invited to that particular party. The men were not usually punished nearly as severely.
"Affairs are a lot of things but condoned, pardoned, or protected by Our Lord and Savoir they most certainly are not."
I don't believe we ever know what has been "pardoned" by our Saviour. That's between him and his well loved sinners. Yes, well loved - as I was taught, God loves us all, and seems to love His sinners just as much as the righteous. I think even the stone throwers can get pardoned by Him, if they're truly sorry. I see the stone throwers as much bigger sinners than the adulterous by the way. Imagine getting stoned to death. Imagine how long it would take - the suffering being dealt to another human being - I wouldn't be surprised if it took hours to kill a healthy young woman.
"A funny" indeed...
Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.
i already made an example, but i will repeat it again. affair couple is very happy, but along the way lets say husband finds out his wife has an affair partner. he decides to really make sure affair couple no longer speaks he tells his wifes APs wife. her state of mind is crazy, lets say she goes after her husbands AP by stalking, possibly destroy her career whether they work together or not. well lets the other way, betrayed husband grabs a shot gun and shoots and kills the male AP, or beats him up and they both get arrested. this is why i say this. there's no right, just leave it be. these scenarios, you never know. maybe they are far fetched, but you never know. granted the BS wants revenge on the AP RL partner, they want them to also feel the pain, but why add to it. they want the AP to stop talking, the BS need just deal with their own spouses. lots more damage can be done by telling AP RL partner. in certain careers there can be no domestic violence, you will loose your job if there is any police calls, arrest records.
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Oh come on, Tori.
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This board is for those looking for support from the AP side, not the spouse side... there are several other boards for those that are in that situation.
"Obviously this is a public forum, and we can all post what we want..." Your words...spoken just yesterday.
"In fact I think it would be called a 'stone throwing party' in these modern times we live in."
In fact, it was usually only the adulterous woman who was invited to that particular party. The men were not usually punished nearly as severely.
"Affairs are a lot of things but condoned, pardoned, or protected by Our Lord and Savoir they most certainly are not."
I don't believe we ever know what has been "pardoned" by our Saviour. That's between him and his well loved sinners. Yes, well loved - as I was taught, God loves us all, and seems to love His sinners just as much as the righteous. I think even the stone throwers can get pardoned by Him, if they're truly sorry. I see the stone throwers as much bigger sinners than the adulterous by the way. Imagine getting stoned to death. Imagine how long it would take - the suffering being dealt to another human being - I wouldn't be surprised if it took hours to kill a healthy young woman.
"A funny" indeed...
Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.
You've got a lot of choices. I
Edited 3/24/2009 8:46 am ET by goddessautumn
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Maystone,
I am not "supporting" the spouse side.
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