has anyone ever gotten revenge

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-15-2007
has anyone ever gotten revenge
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Sat, 03-21-2009 - 10:13am
this is just a question to see
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:00am
Moral of my story....don't play with matches and no one gets burned or has to die. ----- i seen this first hand, this is why i feel as i do. i can't say anymore then this. i would be tmi.
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Registered: 09-19-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:08am

Again, I said to "stop" the affair, not for revenge.---- i didn't mean for revenge.

Same type of ending, all because he did not do what it takes to "STOP" the affair. Again, the affair caused the consequence of violence not contacting AP's wife. ---- the husband did due what it takes, he spoke to his wife. do you really think going to the AP spouse is going to make the situation any better. as i said to Clarity in the previous post, i seen what going to the spouse can do, first hand. tmi on this board. you are better off dealing with your spouse, this who you need to worry about.

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:39am

Goddess,


Yes, I know it can make it better.

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:48am

Goddess,


"as i said to Clarity in the previous post, i seen what going to the spouse can do, first hand. "


Actually, you have seen what "an affair" can do first hand.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 11:54am
it depends on how you handle the situation. one is not to tell the AP spouse.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 12:05pm
People in affairs have a very difficult time ending an affair---i strongly disagree with that. i'm not addicted to my AP, but i do enjoy our conversations. if we don't speak for a while, i don't get upset or withdrawls as people say, i deal with it. we are just friends, have been for a long time, no sex. If it is love, then they will get the divorce. If they want to restore there marriage, they will do that. ------ it's not that easy to get a divorce, if there's children involved, then there's child support, finances, real estate, ect. it's not that easy. Also, the other AP's life has not been affected so they may continue to put strong pressure on the my spouse to continue the affair.Also, the other AP's life has not been affected so they may continue to put strong pressure on the my spouse to continue the affair.----- it's not ok to mess with another persons life, just deal with your own life.
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Registered: 07-08-2003
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 12:24pm

>Also, the other AP's life has not been affected so they may continue to put strong pressure on the my spouse to continue the affair.----- it's not ok to mess with another persons life, just deal with your own life.<

Isn't this exactly what everyone in an affair is doing? Not just dealing with their own life, but messing with another persons as well? I know my actions didn't just affect me...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 12:40pm

Goddess,


Please just consider your statement for a moment


"it's not ok to mess with another persons life, just deal with your own life.'


Exactly..... That is the point.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2008
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 12:53pm
If the spouses dont know then they wont get hurt. Its very important in every aspect to be careful. You probably disagree with my statement above.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
Tue, 03-24-2009 - 1:25pm

Yes, we will agree to disagree.