Moral of my story....don't play with matches and no one gets burned or has to die. ----- i seen this first hand, this is why i feel as i do. i can't say anymore then this. i would be tmi.
Again, I said to "stop" the affair, not for revenge.---- i didn't mean for revenge.
Same type of ending, all because he did not do what it takes to "STOP" the affair. Again, the affair caused the consequence of violence not contacting AP's wife. ---- the husband did due what it takes, he spoke to his wife. do you really think going to the AP spouse is going to make the situation any better. as i said to Clarity in the previous post, i seen what going to the spouse can do, first hand. tmi on this board. you are better off dealing with your spouse, this who you need to worry about.
People in affairs have a very difficult time ending an affair---i strongly disagree with that. i'm not addicted to my AP, but i do enjoy our conversations. if we don't speak for a while, i don't get upset or withdrawls as people say, i deal with it. we are just friends, have been for a long time, no sex. If it is love, then they will get the divorce. If they want to restore there marriage, they will do that. ------ it's not that easy to get a divorce, if there's children involved, then there's child support, finances, real estate, ect. it's not that easy. Also, the other AP's life has not been affected so they may continue to put strong pressure on the my spouse to continue the affair.Also, the other AP's life has not been affected so they may continue to put strong pressure on the my spouse to continue the affair.----- it's not ok to mess with another persons life, just deal with your own life.
>Also, the other AP's life has not been affected so they may continue to put strong pressure on the my spouse to continue the affair.----- it's not ok to mess with another persons life, just deal with your own life.<
Isn't this exactly what everyone in an affair is doing? Not just dealing with their own life, but messing with another persons as well? I know my actions didn't just affect me...
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Again, I said to "stop" the affair, not for revenge.---- i didn't mean for revenge.
Same type of ending, all because he did not do what it takes to "STOP" the affair. Again, the affair caused the consequence of violence not contacting AP's wife. ---- the husband did due what it takes, he spoke to his wife. do you really think going to the AP spouse is going to make the situation any better. as i said to Clarity in the previous post, i seen what going to the spouse can do, first hand. tmi on this board. you are better off dealing with your spouse, this who you need to worry about.
Goddess,
Yes, I know it can make it better.
Goddess,
"as i said to Clarity in the previous post, i seen what going to the spouse can do, first hand. "
Actually, you have seen what "an affair" can do first hand.
>Also, the other AP's life has not been affected so they may continue to put strong pressure on the my spouse to continue the affair.----- it's not ok to mess with another persons life, just deal with your own life.<
Isn't this exactly what everyone in an affair is doing? Not just dealing with their own life, but messing with another persons as well? I know my actions didn't just affect me...
Goddess,
Please just consider your statement for a moment
"it's not ok to mess with another persons life, just deal with your own life.'
Exactly..... That is the point.
Yes, we will agree to disagree.
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