Has anyone here.....

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Has anyone here.....
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Sat, 02-27-2010 - 8:46pm

made a conscious decision to hve an affair?

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Sat, 02-27-2010 - 11:45pm
i have extreme sadness and depression that i can't pull myself out of.

MoonUnit

MoonUnit

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Registered: 02-26-2010
Sun, 02-28-2010 - 9:17am
I haven't, but I am concscious that what happened to me happened because I wanted it too...my marriage is not as happy as yours but it does fulfill certain needs.
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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sun, 02-28-2010 - 12:36pm

That's not too different from what happened to me, alicat.

My marriage was perfunctory at that point, but it wasn't *terrible*. It simply was unlivable, if you understand the difference. There was this terribly attractive, witty, kind, man at work on whom I immediately developed a crush. Fast-forward 2-1/2 years and he started flirting with me in a serious way. It wasn't long before I was flirting back. Dense me took weeks to figure out that he was trying to open the door to something more if I wanted.

I gave it serious consideration. I thought long and hard about whether I wanted to have an affair or not. I finally made the leap. Mine did not "just happen". And now, nearly 7 years later, here we are.....

Lucky

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Registered: 02-26-2010
Sun, 02-28-2010 - 2:06pm
The difference is, this is not something that I can carry on into the future.