Have I become DW???
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| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 2:05pm |
I will not go into all the details of why she is thinking this, things that I also have wondering about lately. But it is sure, that for the last couple of months, he has been going out a lot lately, saying he is meeting up with colleagues for drinks, coming home at wee hours of the morning, not calling me sometimes to let me know he is coming home late.
He is a business man, and does travel a lot, and there doesn't seem to be more of frequency there. hhhmm, puzzled.
So Best friend said to confront him, as we will be going out on Saturday. NOW, how could I confront him, doing what I am with MM, which is long distance, and we never see each other. At one point, early in the relation with MM, I thought he had been in to my private mailbox, as he repeated something almost word for word that had been in a letter from MM. MM thinks DH knows. I am not sure...
Do you think if he is, is it like a revenge. Not long after I met OM, he became very insecure saying I was going to leave him, because I started to change... Yet at home, as BF said, he is loving, over so sometimes, good father, says nothing when I go for a girls day... HHHMMM
Well, can not confront him, because if he turns the tables, not sure how I could answer. I can not loose MM!!!
And BF then informed me that the reason she feels it, is that her DH also had an affair behind her back, and he is the one that thinks DH is...
BOY, will be a moment before I get a calm in my head now. What do you all think, I am really calm here as I right, but the mind is running wild.. crazy, feel like I am going to scream soon, but not for the same reasons as a couple of days ago. Would I be upset, no, but how could I ever ask, knowing that I am having an A.
Even MM has asked, if he wasn't having one, because of the way he is sometimes with me. MM thanks that DH is bi-sexual, and he is having an A with a guy... colleagues... drinks til 4AM sometimes..
just venting, as this is the ONLY place, other than MM... will talk to him later.. How life changes in a heart beat sometimes... I wonder if he is..????
Mitzy

As for your BF asking you about it - she's said her peace, suggested you ask him now she and her H need to drop it - it's really none of their business to be discussing your marriage amongst themselves and coming to any conclusions...it's your marriage and your business. As your BF she has a right to be concerned but if you choose not to confront this that's your decision, not hers to make.
I wouldnt confront your DH if you're not angry at the possibility that he may be. Im not sure what I would do if I were in your shoes. I can tell you one thing though...my DH couldnt even think about gettin' it on with someone else without me knowing about it. Id be on him in a heartbeat because Im just so much more observant now making sure I cover my tracks and know where DH is at almost all times so I dont get myself in trouble...I have mixed feeling when I think about my DH being with someone else on the side like I have been for 2 years now...
cl-liberalgirl
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I agree with cl-liberal....you would probably know if he was for sure, since you know all the "tricks" anyway, I would tell your BF & her H to stay out of it and thank-you for being concerned, I would only bring it up to him if you want him to stop. Then that is different. You'll have alot to face if he tells you he is. Are you willing to give up your MM and work on your relationship with your H. Because that is the alternitive if he confesses to you. Otherwise, I'd leave it alone and you both do your thing, just be prepared for when or if he desides to leave.
wishing~
Hi Mitzy,
I went through a time where I thought DH was having an affair... small things that just did not appear to be right.
Sweet
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Really wanted to tell you all thank you. I turned what you said around in the head for a day or so, trying to decided what I felt. It is definitely not anger that I feel, but curiousity, because it may explain a lot of things. I do not think he could, without me knowing, because he is not very organised, and I am very observant. BUT, then he is often gone, and I can not know what he is doing where, or if it is in the office, etc. And as you mentioned, I am NOT willing to have things thrown back in my face, or LOOSE MM, that is absolutely out of the question!!! So we will let it ride. If he is, I only hope that he continues with our above average marriage, if nothing else, for the sake of the kids. (And maybe he will make things better at home, as things tend to get better for me, make sense?) Any way he chooses, I have no control of what will happen. I can not worry about it, but would like to know, curiousity kills the cat,, LOL!!!
Take care, and excellent weekend to all of you fine ladies.. Your support was excellent!!!