Have you ever been caught...
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|Thu, 08-16-2012 - 6:54pm|
by someone other than your H or W? How did you handle it? How bad was it? Did you try to explain it or just leave it as something best left unsaid?
A few years ago I caught a friend have an EA with someone. He used to send her lingerie and she'd take pictures of herself in it and spend hours during the day on the phone with him. I was livid at her. She lost all this weight and went out and found her a new guy? What a horrible person. I didn't say anything but I distanced myself from her for several years. A couple of years ago she was on my mind a lot so I looked around on google and found her. That's when she told me that her husband had been an abusive drunk and that she had eventually separated and divorced him. I wonder if I'd known that she was so unhappy, if I would have seen things through different eyes. Or would I have thought she was lying just to justify stepping out on him. Now I'm realizing that I'm standing almost exactly where she was years ago, surrounded by friends that think I have a perfect marriage and that would never understand for a second why I'm stepping out on him. Are people capable of understanding or can only those that have btdt really get it?