Having A with BI
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| Fri, 11-07-2008 - 12:04am |
Hi girls...I'm new...and desperate to tell my secret.
Ever since the beginning of my M I've always found my BI (whom I never met b4 my M)attractive but only that attractive. There was no connection or chemistry or any feelings involved. But 5 yrs. into my M he and his wife separated and my H asked me to talk to BI and to offer a woman's point of view as to why his W left him (she felt neglected).
So we talked and it became a daily thing, even calling me at midnight to talk...and this was all ok with DH because he knew his brother was depressed and needed comfort. Well one thing led to another and the talks and comforting turned into an A.
BI and his wife have since gotten back together (they have 3 kids under 5y/o)but we never ended the A. It's going on to 2 yrs and we love each other.
The problem is that I have a great marriage (is it possible to love 2 guys equally at the same time?) and his is hanging by a thread. We both know we wont end up together no matter what (don't think my MIL would want me the 2nd time around), even if we do get D from our spouses but it would mean being disowned from both our families. So I always ask myself what's the point but my heart always wins over reason.
It's starting to eat at me...

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"I'm glad I found this board. I'll you girls know what happens. We're going to meet early next week."
Oh come on now!
Yes....DON'T meet in person.
I guess it took us almost 2 years to realize how big of a fire we were playing with. I think because in the beginning it seemed like a game that we could just end anytime but we grew closer and needed each other more and that's when we started to freak out.
Thanks for helping...BTW, we did meet, and we did have that one last kiss...then, he came over with his kids last night while H was a the store, it seemed normal. Surprisingly normal, I think despite our broken hearts, we're both relived not to feel guilty when we're together. When H got home we had dinner and watched the kids play for a while then BI went home.
In the back of my head I waiting for him to text me when he got home but he never did. I guess it really is over...
I'm sad but relieved
Good for you. You did the right thing. Here if you need.
Boodle
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