You are an amazing strong woman. You should do what makes you happy. It is not fair for your daughter to have unhappy parents. Cut your loses and RUN !
There's not much I can add to Kimber's post. Amazed that you could go through all this at all! Makes me feel so blessed in so many ways. (((HUGS))) from me too!
I wish I could give you the therapy you both need to try to salvage your M. It sounds like your H needs some serious individual counseling and you both need couples therapy, to at least try and make a go of it. Your A's, at this point, are probably partly distractions from the dismalness of your everyday life and all the problems involved. If you absolutely can't do therapy, do what Kimber said - make a list and start doing the things on it, one by one. You want a job in your field - start looking, tomorrow! It's Monday - a good "fresh start" day. You would have to have a job if you want to consider leaving your marriage, and even if you don't, it would go a long way to helping financial problems, so start there.
It's better to work on one thing at a time - doesn't seem as overwhelming that way!
I'll be hoping everything turns out well for you sweetie, please keep us updated. Tomorrow, tell us what jobs you may have found available, or if you wrote your resume (or updated it). Little steps, every single day, get you where you want to go!
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You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
Jane...just WOW...((HUG)) ((HUG)) ((HUG))...and you're still standing!!
You are an amazing strong woman. You should do what makes you happy. It is not fair for your daughter to have unhappy parents. Cut your loses and RUN !
There's not much I can add to Kimber's post. Amazed that you could go through all this at all! Makes me feel so blessed in so many ways. (((HUGS))) from me too!
I wish I could give you the therapy you both need to try to salvage your M. It sounds like your H needs some serious individual counseling and you both need couples therapy, to at least try and make a go of it. Your A's, at this point, are probably partly distractions from the dismalness of your everyday life and all the problems involved. If you absolutely can't do therapy, do what Kimber said - make a list and start doing the things on it, one by one. You want a job in your field - start looking, tomorrow! It's Monday - a good "fresh start" day. You would have to have a job if you want to consider leaving your marriage, and even if you don't, it would go a long way to helping financial problems, so start there.
It's better to work on one thing at a time - doesn't seem as overwhelming that way!
I'll be hoping everything turns out well for you sweetie, please keep us updated. Tomorrow, tell us what jobs you may have found available, or if you wrote your resume (or updated it). Little steps, every single day, get you where you want to go!
You've got a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling on a regular basis, try another choice. ~Steven D. Woodhull
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Thank you so much for the kind words of support and good advice!
First of all, many ((((hugs)))) to you!
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