Having his cake, but yet...

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Having his cake, but yet...
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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 9:42am

Yesterday, I receive a text from AP. He asked what I did the night before. I told him I took my boys to a friend's house to watch fireworks. Well, while texting instead of boys I wrote cop.

TanZa2920
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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 4:03pm
OMG!! LOL!!! I am seriously laughing out loud here picturing you texting "I took my cop to a friend's house to watch fireworks." LMAO!!!! Talk about a Freudian slip!! Now come on, that cop must have been on your mind.



OK, you have no obligation to stay single forever to fulfill his needs. He knows it too. Trust me, I'm the female version of him, and part of me is really hoping that my OM finds a single person to be a real life partner. The reason for that is because I do love him, so you know, I really want him to be happy. There are things, besides me, that might get in the way of this happening, which is why I would never leave him first. But if it should happen, I would be quite bereft, but also happy for him. Maybe your MM feels the same way. He can't help but be jealous (I would be also), but he would know that it is what's best for you.

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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 4:24pm
Well, I have to admit....the cop was HOT!!
TanZa2920
TanZa2920
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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 4:26pm
:-) :-) :-)

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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 5:37pm

Hi Tanza


LOL that made me laugh would have loved to have seen your AP's face reading that;)


I am also a SW and likely to stay one for the forseeable future as not sure if my A has ended or not.


My AP has said on many occasions that he knows I have a life and need to go out with my friends and that he is fine with this. However he always asks if I met any nice guys in a jokey way of course! I think that because I am S he has a touch of the green eyed monster knowing that there is nothing stopping me from finding a SM.


When I 1st started talking to AP back in february I went out on a date with a lovely guy but the spark was just not there, AP told me he was glad I wasn't seeing him again and that was before we were even in an A LOL. I have not dated anyone else since then. However I am thinking that the next time I get asked on a date I might just go on it because after all I don't owe AP anything and I am a SW LOL


I think although they are MM they still expect us to be faithful to them and I think especially when the AP is S this hits a nerve with them. AP has told me he would be devastated if I met someone else but he can't expect me to sit around pining for him forever!


ali x

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Mon, 07-05-2010 - 6:07pm
What about when your MM tells you that you had better never cheat on him?
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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 3:07am

Kitty---LOL!

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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 11:17am

Hi Tanza,


My AP is in your exact situation and trust when I tell you that I want and encourage him to see other woman but deep in my heart it does hurt BUT I love him enough to want what's best for him and do understand completely. You do have a life outside of

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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