Is he being spiteful or are we friends?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2009
Is he being spiteful or are we friends?
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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 4:33pm

Hi all,


I hope you remember my story.


OM has still not been fired but should meet with H tonight.


This morning

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2009
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 5:01pm

I was just thinking, it doesn't matter what his game

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 8:24am

Yes, he was hoping you would offer yourself up to him, that's why he had that conversation with you.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2009
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 12:38pm

Hi Obxbell,


Thankyou for your response and yes after I confessed my feelings in an email, he called to say basically that it wouldn't be right for my family that we get involved because he respects my husband and kids.


You are right, I can't understand why else he was telling me these things. Is it so easy for him to turn off his feelings?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2008
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 12:55pm

I have kind of been in a similar situation with AP...I was in love with him and he would talk about other women like it was nothing..Just like I was one of his male buddies and every time he did my heart would break..I would get sick to my stomach and almost puke!


I never said a word to him about how it made me feel...I regret that to this day because maybe things would be different now and he would know it hurt and effected things.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2009
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 2:04pm

Hi,


That's very interesting.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2009
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 11:00pm
Why are you listening to this jerk? He is nothing but a player. He is not in love with you. He just wants to play games with you and get you into bed. He is filling your head full of lies.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2008
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 9:53am

I have been in my A with AP for over 8 years...There have been MANY MANY ups and downs..


At one point he revealed to me that he let another woman perform oral sex on him while we were 'together' because he was 'mad at me'....This revealation is actually still very new..

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2008
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 10:07am

sorry tc2009, you need to change your username to 'outofcontrol',lol!,jk.

Listen doll,your AP is taking advantage of you being in a vulnerable place.Period.Change your phone nos, block his nos.Go on holiday with H and tell your AP that you had a blast,your H was being very naughty,etc.etc.Make up stories and he will be gone.

You are stuck ,he knows and hence the advances.You cant stay naive all your life.there are predators all over and you unfortunately have been traped by one.

((hugs ))

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-27-2009
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 1:08pm

Hi Amandamichelle,


Thankyou for your words.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2007
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 4:37pm

And please don't be so hard on yourself takingcontrol.


You really seem like a very intelligent and classy woman who just fell for a charmer without good intentions.

 

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