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He broke NC
| Sat, 08-08-2009 - 5:00pm |
I was here a few months ago asking for advice and you all were very helpful so I thought I'd come back with another question.
I initiated NC and told OM to leave me alone back in January. He respected my wishes until yesterday when he e-mailed me. It was an innocent e-mail just asking how I am but this is the way it always starts out with us.
What should I do?

I would just ingnore the email and not respond to it if you truly want nc.
Good luck.
This has been going on with us for the past 12 years. We've always been on and off. We'll start talking and will talk for a few months and then one of us will get mad (usually me), request to be left alone, and have NC for a while. Then one of us (normally him) will e-mail the other and we'll start talking again.
I just don't understand why he won't leave me alone?!
And you could flip the situation and he could be saying...I wonder why she always responds to my email if she really wants to be left alone?
Cycles are hard to break.
It's just all so ridiculous. I want to know why he continues to torture me in this way?! I know, I know, he can't torture me unless I allow him to but it's just so hard for me. It's hard for me to talk to him knowing that I'll never have him as I want him and it's hard for me not to talk to him because it feels like such an emptiness where his place in my head and heart are when he's not in my life.
Why does he have nothing better to do with his life other than torture me?!
Ignore, Ignore, Ignore !
If you really wants him to leave you alone, why don't you just block him ?
I really don't use the e-mail account that he e-mails me at much so I never thought of blocking him.
I'm enabling him to contact me?! That's like saying I should change my phone number just because I keep getting prank calls. Why should I inconvienence myself and all the friends and business contacts that I have just for one person? I don't think that's enabling at all? Enabling would be like bringing alcohol to someone who I know is an alcoholic.