He called a counselor
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He called a counselor
| Tue, 12-16-2003 - 11:44pm |
Hi, I lurk here quite a bit, getting good vibes and positive thoughts from all of you and I really appreciate that. I have kind of posted here before but just to kind of update, I am single, he is M. A few weeks ago his W told him if he did not shape up and get back into their M she was kicking him to the curb by the first of the year, he told me he has no desire to shape up that he wants out to be with me. I told him once he leaves her he has to be on his own ( not living with me or her to make sure that is REALLY what he wants ) for atleast a year before we can get married, he agreed thinking that was a good idea. Things for him at home have been up and down, good and bad. The more he thinks about it ( and I do not push at all ) the more he wants out. He is the one that tells me he wants out to be with me and that he is not in love with his W anymore. He has another woman friend that has been thru a D that he has been talking to about all of this and she encouraged him to go to counseling a few months ago, I agreed and highly encouraged it as well. Neither of us ever said MC, just that he needed to go alone to sort his issues out. Well he him hawed around and did not do much about it, but tonight he called and made an appt for Jan after all of the holidays. I am so proud of him and really think it will be good for him, but at the same time I am absolutely terrified that he the counselor will encourage him to find out and fix what went wrong in his M. I have really fallen in love with him and he tells me he has fallen in love with me, even though he is not mine to fall in love with. And with as happy as I am that he is gonna go get his stuff figured out, I am also 10 times more terrified. I know that only time will tell what is really going to happen and that I can not do anything about it that it will be his and his decision alone in whether to leave his W or not, but I am just scared and needed I guess to " tell someone that understands " and see what you all think. So thanks a ton for listening.

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