He did it to me...shocked!

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He did it to me...shocked!
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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 10:29am

 

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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 11:34am

It seems like a blast from the past today. *hugs*


I cannot help to wonder

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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 9:50am

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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 11:55am

Wow, you sound kinda angry in your response. yes we all know affairs have many similaritites but so do regular bf/gf relationships. Even though similar they are all different. Not every A is some type

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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 12:15pm

I'll keep this short. Girls, we cheat. Cheating is what we do. Cheating is what we're about. We are cheats. It's what our AP's are about too. I just don't get how we can be shocked. . .shocked. . .when our cheating AP gets some from a cheater other than us. The other thing we are, is liars. The more we cheat, the better we get at lying. To our spouses and APs and whoever. Whatever tales our APs give us about their M or whatever, you know they are skewing the truth, leaving things out, flat out inventing stuff. . .whatever it takes to keep us in the sack.

Just my .02

-jana

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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 12:17pm
I agree with Myrasfriend 100%.
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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 12:19pm
Great post Jana!
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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 2:58pm

Angry is not really the word i was shooting for. I felt the post was a little harsh or incompassionate. When it comes to someone who is hurting or feels heartbroken, you don't really want to be told you are living in a fantasy world. You want to feel comforted somehow.


That was my whole point.

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Mon, 08-24-2009 - 4:08pm
OK, sorry if I was harsh. I just believe in taking off the rose colored glasses and looking at things the way they really are. I believe the biggest mistakes we make as women is we don't believe what we know to be true in relationships. We believe what we hear and create a fantasy world based on what someone is telling us not what we know deep down to be true. It's why MM can compartmentalize so well and continue to real you in even when some women want to get out of the A. We believe in fairytales and believing that a man will cheat on his W but not on his mistress is just not reality. MM have a whole other world where the mistress has no idea of what really goes on. If you want the A, just enjoy it and don't get your hopes up believing in the one day he will leave her until he actually does. Only a small % of men actually leave their W for their AP and most when the W finds out about the A will throw their AP under the bus. I just hate to see women give away their power to men who don't appreciate it.