He ended it, for now.

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Registered: 03-27-2008
He ended it, for now.
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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 7:49am

OM came back from vacation on Monday and was very rude to me.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 8:03am

I've given this advice before to people here and they never take it but I'll try one more time. LOL!

When it gets to a point that you have to "entice" someone to do something they're really struggling not to do, it becomes a total lose/lose situation for you. By enticing him to go back on what he said (about cooling it), you're taking all the blame away from him, in his mind. If you get discovered, he can tell his wife that you wouldn't leave him alone, that he told you he didn't want to do it but you continued to flirt with him, etc., and what guy can resist that, huh? (Even if he flirted with you first). This is a case where he would surely throw you under a bus, and feel justified, because in his mind, he's told you how he feels, so if you go ahead and get him to continue the affair, you're going against what he's said - it's not his fault!

It's also pretty clear that he would be one of those guys consumed with guilt AFTER the orgasm and won't speak to you for days after an encounter - hating himself for giving in, hating you for "making" him etc. etc.

If any of this sounds appealing to you - hey - go ahead, sign up for it! LOL!

I don't think the pleasure part would be worth all the angst to come.

Some would say that I fell from grace... but I didn't.

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Registered: 03-27-2008
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 10:50am

We both agreed that it was going to be hard.

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Registered: 02-18-2008
Wed, 09-10-2008 - 6:27pm

I know it is hard... My EAP called things off too, I guess, but for reasons I do not know. I havent' talked to him in over a month. He is trying to keep us distant from one another so we do not mess up each others lives. He says he wants what he can't have. So, he is putting space between us.


Hang in there... we're here for you.

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Registered: 03-04-2008
Thu, 09-11-2008 - 6:13pm

"It's also pretty clear that he would be one of those guys consumed with guilt AFTER the orgasm and won't speak to you for days after an encounter - hating himself for giving in, hating you for "making" him etc. etc."


This is exactly what happened between me and my ex-AP.