he finally left her! why aren't i happy?
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he finally left her! why aren't i happy?
| Thu, 06-25-2009 - 1:24pm |
After several false starts, 6 months of therapy with and without me,
| Thu, 06-25-2009 - 1:24pm |
After several false starts, 6 months of therapy with and without me,
Why? Because your gut instinct knows that there's really nothing to celebrate. Him going to a hotel doesn't equal a D. He still has TONS of stuff to get through before you can count your blessings. Even then, it still doesn't guarantee he will not find fault with you and run bak to his (x?)W. That's why we don't advice jumping from one R to another and it's doubly worst if the R started as an A.
I got the gist that your not D yourself? Maybe it's time you do the hard work and tie up your loose ends so that when he's done with his loose ends you'll both be ready to start a new slate together.
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Hi Joan Jr:
My AP is still w his LTGF & they also have that proverbial bro-sis R, and he tells me ALL the time about leaving etc ... and I think I would like that, however...once that happens, I know his happiness will be my hands. He may make demands of me I will find hard to satisfy. I am a MW with an much old ailing H who does not keep close tabs on me, so really I am not free to complete his life with marriage etc.
If I were S however -- I think I would still feel as you do. I would not trust this chain of events. A hotel? Why is he not looking about for a more permanent abode? Or move in with you? It does sound temporary to me.
Part of the attraction of an A is in its mystery, its unavailability...parted lovers & all that, what could be more romantic? Once day to day living enters the scene, much of that disappears. You would have ALL of him & that would mean living with him.
One good thing: you have known this dude for 20 yrs & probably have an idea about him as to personality, interests, habits etc. J
All that said: give yrself a chance to get over the shock & think things thru. Do not rush into anything. Protect yr heart...hope it turns out good...Zero
I would suggest,wait for few days and see how things progress as a D is much easier said than done.
Hi There,
I have waited a long time to be able to speak freely on this subject! I am so so in love with a married man ~ I was very happy to finally find a place where someone else had a man leave his wife too! They are all still waiting on all the forums! I am very sad for them all .....
My story goes like this... I met someone that I immediately connected with! He was gorgeous, full of life, funny, and mostly had this sparkle in his eyes whenever I saw him! He is a fishing captain and I love to fish!I