He found out! Don't want him to leave!
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He found out! Don't want him to leave!
| Mon, 09-14-2009 - 11:01am |
I am new to this whole message board thing, so bare with me....here goes!
| Mon, 09-14-2009 - 11:01am |
I know you are incredibly upset and am sorry you are hurting. I have never had a D-Day so i havent been there. The people here are lifesavers IMO and can offer you better advice than me so i will just make a couple of notes to get you going.
DO NOT contact the other man again. You have just had the major wake up that your H is not OK with this. If you think your H is hurt, imagine how bad it would be if he found out that you contacted the AP again even after all this. If you want to start to repair any damage, there is NO more AP. No goodbye, NOTHING.
There is a board called Ending Affairs Support that have such excellent people who can help you on how to cope with the effects of your feelings towards your AP as well as the Healing Library that contains mountains of articles that can assist you to get over him:http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlending
There is also another board called Betrayed Spouses Support
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rladultery (dont post there - just read) that gives you an indication on how your H is feeling. If you need to ask questions you can ask the All Sides board.
I hope you get it worked out. Hugs.
Hi!
Welcome to the board.
I hope things work out for you. I've been there and I too wanted to still talk with my ex-ap. It took quite awhile before I gave him up, even just by email. Be thankful texting was all you did!