He makes me smile

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Registered: 05-02-2004
He makes me smile
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 11:24pm
I am 28 and on my second marriage. My husband and I have had a downward spiral for the past year or so. I have felt like he has cheated and thats why he has changed. He leaves for work at 4:30a and sometimes "works" untill 1:00am. This year I did not recieve a valentines, nothing..no card, note, or gift. I bought him a beautiful curio cabinet in whick he got a week before. Nothing for my birthday. And the day before Easter I found a box of chocolates and on Easter he told me it was for an Easter exchange, however he got nothing, well and neither did I. Then he said he ate the box on the way home and threw it out, 2 things, one he doesn't litter, and 2 he doesn't like chocolate. Well about a month in a half ago I met a great guy. It started with flirting (as it usually does). And then out of the blue one day he said that all he wanted to do was make me smile and kiss me. We eventually kissed and has been ever since. He calls me a couple times a day and can brighten my every mood. That is as far as it has gone but we both know we want more but we keep saying to eachother "slow down". I have resently came to the realization that I do not want to do this because of revenge. I want to do this because he makes me happy. My husband and I have been intimate twice this year and its what...May. I am afraid this is going to complicate things between me and my "friend" and I am torn. Do I jump into this or do I keep tiptoeing around the inevitable? But I on the other hand don't want to go through another divorce.