Is He Playing Me?

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Registered: 07-29-2008
Is He Playing Me?
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Thu, 03-05-2009 - 10:07am

I met a MM (I am M too) online a month ago and we have really hit it off. He sends he text messages throughout the day and calls everyday and we talk for AT LEAST an hour. We are at the same place in our lives, kids going off to college, waiting on the last to graduate high school next year before making any changes in our lives. I let him do the talking in telling me what he wants/where he is in life...to see if we were at the same place. I didn't want to hear him tell me this because he knew that's what I wanted to hear. We've been very open and honest with each other about our past A's. He started asking me early in the R if I would be willing to move (we live 750 miles apart) because he can't make the kind of money that he makes living where I live. I told him he's moving too fast but he says he just wants to know what to expect IF things worked out between us. He said that we would live very comfortable...that he doesn't mind helping around the house...even sent me a pic of him loading the dishwasher! lol

We will be meeting face to face for the first time soon and he made a comment that he couldn't buy me a gift and couldn't receive gifts because his W is very observant. He has an office in my state and spends a week here once a month. He does a lot of traveling throughout the US throughout the month. I look at the picture and realize with the kind of money that he makes and all the traveling he does there could be a woman in every state and that he may not want to change his home situation and could just be telling me this. He does seem very jealous of my H and I think that if he didn't care about me then he wouldn't be jealous. He said that he's had A's before because he was unhappy in his M and it made him a happier person but he is now at a place in his life where he can get out of his M and that he is wanting someone to love (same as myself). He said that there has only been one OW he's felt this way about and that he ended it with her because he knew she would never leave her husband. I talked to a friend about him and she said that as much time as he spends on me it's not very likely he's seeing anyone else. Does everybody on here see him as a player or could there be some sincerity here?




Edited 3/5/2009 10:31 am ET by addicted2mya
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Registered: 12-06-2007
Thu, 03-05-2009 - 11:46am

OMG mya, this is the THIRD MM you've mentioned being involved with just since January!

 

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 03-05-2009 - 12:25pm

I'm with Oxybell on this one.


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Registered: 08-19-2008
Thu, 03-05-2009 - 1:43pm

You're putting the carriage before the horse here. YOU DON'T KNOW THIS MAN! If you met him online, well you already know what we warn youngsters about those dangers.

I agree with Obx and Clair. Stop worrying about his motives. We already know he probably just want an easy piece, therefore, he's telling you what you want to hear. You need to examine your motives and why you're so addicted to these types of attraction to unavailable men.

If you're looking for true love, you need to get that from yourself. So, stop exposing yourself to this type of confusions, pain and danger. As you already know by now, it goes nowhere unless and until you clean up your life and make space for it to happen the "right" way.

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