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He Read My Journal!
| Wed, 03-03-2004 - 5:50pm |
My boyfriend of 3+ years read my journal the other day and discovered I had been emotionally unfaithful. While I had never actually had any physical relationship with this person (who is a close friend of mine)we had talked about it. Everytime we were supposed to meet up, something would happen and I had just come to the realization that maybe that was the Powers That Be telling me that I need to step back and re-evaulate my situation. I had been unhappy with my boyfriend taking me for granted (he would come over, eat some food and go to sleep) and lack of romance and religious differences (I wanted to start going to church, he didn't think it was a big deal). He was still a sweetheart though (in his own way). I had discussed my issues with him before and it seemed like he thought I wasn't really serious about how detrimental I felt these issues were to our relationship. As I got closer and closer with this friend of mine (a guy I dated briefly in my past) we realized he was having issues with his own relationship which, I think, caused some sort of crazy connection. I have broken my boyfriend's heart. He said he has forgiven me, but doesn't know if he'll even be able to trust me again. I am absolutely sick at the thought that I have hurt so deeply someone that I care a lot about. I have no clue what to do. Please help.......

I deffinatly have to agree on that one- I've had my boyfriend read my journal also and not only do you feel violated, but a sence of trust is broken. Trusting your parter not to invade space that is so intimate and private, and when taht trust is broken- its hard to gain it back. But along with everyone else's replys i agree you need space love. It's ok to be on your own for a bit... I was in a 2 1/2 year relationship where I was not emotionally happy at all... and sometimes we do things thinking it's okay because we are hurting... and its not okay. It only does more damage to you and your parter. Your lying to yourself and him. Take some time love, it'll all work out in the end. :)