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| Sat, 08-23-2008 - 10:28pm |
Hi everyone,
I posted the other day but was troll-ized so I deleted it. Long story short, AP/BF has either phoned, and or sent texts, almost every day he's been on vacation. He keeps telling me he misses me, he sounds like he's really chomping at the bit to see me again (as am I, believe me!). I told him that I was lonely and that I loved him so much...he replied that he is lucky to have me...not a declaration of love, but pretty darned good regardless. He is going to be home within a few days and I can't wait...I am going to be good and finish the work day (he would be home around noon and I had thought of taking off). My roommate is on vacation himself so we will have my place to ourselves..just like old times.
The fact that he has kept in close contact with me practically the whole time he's been gone sends me a pretty wonderful message. I wonder what your thoughts are on this? He's been gone for three weeks and has been half way across the country...yet he's been keeping so close to me. I'm afraid to think what I'm thinking. I know that he's totally into me, I wish he could realize how great I would be for him. What we have for right now is going to have to be enough...thank god that what is going on between is so very wonderful. I'm not so naive not to understand that one day it won't be enough...right now, feeling so normal with someone is truly a blessing. I didn't feel normal with my stbxh for so long.
Just talking it out, thanks for the read (if you've done so!)
benska

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benska,
I am so glad to see you happy and not so troubled
That sounds nice. Cherish all the good times as long as you can, maybe forever!
Sending you hugs!!
Just to share, i had my new baby recently.very cute,cuddly and healthy!
It is a wonderful message. It sounds like he is really trying to show you how he feels, even if he hasn't said ILY yet, me thinks he just might soon enough. My BF got really, really attentive this same way shortly before he decided to leave his W. I think he was testing the waters, to see how I really felt. Some guys don't find it easy to say those three words and they show you before they ever say it.
And dang it, girl! Take the stinking day off and pamper and preen
Congrats heissick!
My granddaughter is almost four months old...little babies are so incredible! I'm way to old but I sure would love another one (with AP/BF of course!)
Get lots of rest
benska
Thanks, btru2yrself.
Benska, thanks.
I am an all boys mom now! and loving it.
Thanks for the kind words ladies. Just as an update...he sent me three texts yesterday and phoned me three times!
btdt2008: I seriously almost fell down when I read your reply. Are you kidding me? Your BF was like this before he left his W (and obviously continues the R with you)? That gives me a LOT of hope. I mean, he really has been GREAT with me lately. The way he's being, all chatty and calling all the time...from over 2000 miles away, well it's blowing my mind. I really think that he's trying to figure things out for himself, what he wants for the rest of his life. We have a wonderful connection and I would really like to get to know his "every day self" KWIM? It would be so great to be able to wake up with him every day.
Guess I'll have to wait and see what the future holds for us...right now it looks awfully bright and shiny. Oh man, I cannot wait to see him....just 2 1/2 more days!
Thanks all...it just feels so wonderful!
Oh Heissick -
Congratulations on your baby - how exciting!!
Like Tiger said, don't get tooooo excited. I don't mean to say that your AP is doing the same thing, but yes, AP now BF did. It could be a couple of things....it could be that he is thinking about making some changes. It could be that being with W 24/7 on vacation made him realize just how much he misses you - and that's all. It could be that he knows while he's gone, you could meet mister right-and-single so he is reminding you that he's out there. It could be that he upped his limit on his text plan and doesn't want to waste it.
So, yes, bask in the glory that he is being more attentive, and enjoy that wonderful feeling that he loves you. But still, be guarded and know that it may mean something or it may mean nothing.
I get what you're saying and I am holding myself in check...in my weaker moments I like to project how I would like things to be. Just to let you know, his W was NOT with him on this vacation...he went back to spend some time with his aged Mom (makes me love him all the more). He called me again today (I missed it, crap) and I've texted him back just with; sorry I missed you, can't wait to see you, kind of message.
btdt2008 ~ I know that his actions can't be indicative of where his mind is at right now with regards to me but...can you tell me, is it a good thing that I keep telling him how much he means to me, and how much I love him? He really seems to enjoy hearing it...and the reason I took such heart from your message is because he just has not been loved throughout his whole marriage! This is according to him but, I love him so I will have to choose to believe him. He is a very reserved man...and I feel that I know what I know. However, I am prepared to be wrong and to have all this end one day...maybe it will be me and maybe it will be him. I DON'T want to think of those things right now though...such a kill joy :)
I am just going to look forward to him coming home and just BE with him. He needs me, this I know...I need him, this I've told him. I love him so very much and I think he loves me back. Just going to take it as it comes :) This doesn't mean that I don't hope and pray for the outcome I want :)
benska
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