It does sound like he's wavering since he's mentioning her to you so much now, and maybe he's already feeling guilty and is trying to lighten things up, put on the brakes before you get to the point of IC?
Hmm. Having been cheated on, the first big sign for me has always been when my b/fs started talking about another woman, a little more than was normal. I might roll my eyes but the alarms would be banging loud in my head.
I imagine he'd get a naughty little thrill from seeing you and his W together. Will something happen? Will you fight over him? Will nothing happen, green lighting him to maybe go a little further?
Okay, so he's at it again...telling me all the family stories (it's all about the kids with him, which is fine), the wife gets mention but not in the best context.
"I'm still confused and not sure how to respond/react to him. Is it just giving him ammunition against his wife or is he actually struggling with feelings for me??"
Well, he's obviously struggling real hard with his lack of respect for you! Maybe he just doesn't like women?
It actually reminds me of that episode of Ugly Betty when she interviews the sexist author and he explains his woman-pulling technique, demonstrating it by wrecking Amanda's confidence.
Best way to respond to him would be by slamming the door very hard in his face, locking it and throwing away the key.
But if you like him, and being somewhere on a par with a steak dinner, perhaps you should gift him a copy of something like "Flirting For Dummies", so he can brush up his technique...
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Hmm. Having been cheated on, the first big sign for me has always been when my b/fs started talking about another woman, a little more than was normal. I might roll my eyes but the alarms would be banging loud in my head.
I imagine he'd get a naughty little thrill from seeing you and his W together. Will something happen? Will you fight over him? Will nothing happen, green lighting him to maybe go a little further?
Okay, so he's at it again...telling me all the family stories (it's all about the kids with him, which is fine), the wife gets mention but not in the best context.
With ONE of my ex's flings, he flaunted her
Weel, you are obviously on his mind, he is pissed at W and he is flaunting you in front of her deliberately
In reading your post, all I could think was, "Ugh.
sillyme12000,
WOW!
Another friend heard from...
I think his ego is being boosted by your attention and that he will say and do whatever necessary to keep all that coming.
This guy *is* a putz and disrespecting himself, his wife, his family and now you.
"I'm still confused and not sure how to respond/react to him. Is it just giving him ammunition against his wife or is he actually struggling with feelings for me??"
Well, he's obviously struggling real hard with his lack of respect for you! Maybe he just doesn't like women?
It actually reminds me of that episode of Ugly Betty when she interviews the sexist author and he explains his woman-pulling technique, demonstrating it by wrecking Amanda's confidence.
Best way to respond to him would be by slamming the door very hard in his face, locking it and throwing away the key.
But if you like him, and being somewhere on a par with a steak dinner, perhaps you should gift him a copy of something like "Flirting For Dummies", so he can brush up his technique...
D x
Ugh!