Is he using his mom dying as a reason...
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Is he using his mom dying as a reason...
| Sun, 10-26-2003 - 8:35am |
to distance himself from me?? The day we met, i knew she was going to die. I knew this, so did he, but now again 4 days not a word. Last week was 6 days so i phone him, and thats when he explained building up one relationship while her dying is impossible, so i have listened to my heart and to you all and have made myself available to him as a friend. I sent him a long email, just telling him he can always come to me, and cry or talk or whatever.. that was tues, and no response what-so-ever. I text messaged him on wed told him about a dr's apt. he seemed concerned.. said to let him know how it goes.. i text later, said it was okay, no news to tell, he just said glad to hear- when i textd back with how are things with you... nothing.. that was wed, and now its sunday nite and still not a peep. I have been feeling used and confused by him since the beginning.. afteral, its only since aug 29 that we know eachother.. but i just think wtih the distance.. ( him in NL, me in finland.. ) that is just all too weird.. i dunno. I don't want to let him use his mom's illness as a reason to just leave us.. but i think that i have already left us in some ways. I have hardly thought about him all week, and when i did, was not sympathetic, but annoyed. Its just not what i expected.... maybe for him too. anyway, thanks for letting me vent..
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| Sun, 10-26-2003 - 9:16am |
mikkolover I don't think he is using his dying mother to distance himself from you. It is a stressful time for him and that is why probably he doesn't keep in touch with you as often as before. It is really hard to come in terms with parents dying however old they may be. I would give him some space so that he time to grieve for his mother. Don't be annoyed be supportive. It will take him sometime to reach out to you again until then you have to wait - keep busy and don't worry about it too much. Take care.
