he went back to his w again!

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Registered: 05-01-2004
he went back to his w again!
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Sat, 05-01-2004 - 9:01pm
ive been with a married man now for 3 years...he's left his wife 2 times in the past 2 months. he stays with me when he leaves..and each time he told me it was for good...the 2nd time he left..he stayed with me and then just didnt come home from visiting his kids at her house. he just moved back in with her, no phone call..nothing...finally the next day, he tells me, he wasnt ready to leave yet, he has to do this his way, but he knows a divorce is inevitable...how long am i supposed to wait? he says itll be soon..but days turn into weeks and months...its already been 3 years..i am ready for a life. i am ready for someone i can see on holidays! i dont know if i can do this anymore. she knows about me...and she keeps taking him back. on one hand, ive been waiting for 3 years, and its finally coming to a head, he never left her before..but on the other hand, this back and forth is killing me.
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Registered: 06-29-2003
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 12:54am
Sandie: I'd say in your situation,you're being treated very unfairly by your MM. If he doesn't even have the decency to let you know that he's decided to stay with his W, and then turns around and comes back to stay with you after leaving her again, I personally would have to kick him to the curb.

I realize that you love him, but you don't deserve to be treated like this. It's not fair to you and you need to put your foot down...or up...his #*%. Good luck to you.

Virgogirl

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Registered: 11-26-2003
Sun, 05-02-2004 - 7:31am
Sandie, Sweetheart. You have to face the truth.He is not going to leave her for you. Believe me I have been there once before. It's much more difficult for him to leave her after God knows how many years of marriage, leave his kids, leave his home, then has to face his whole family afterwards, then dumping you. It's easier for him to to deal with the bitterness at home and continue his affair with you, or if you decide to leave, find another women with who he can start another affair. Unfortunatly, you will always be second best. Do you want to settle for that?? And trust me when I stress this over and over (I know how painful it sounds, but im talking of personal experience) He's NOT going to leave her for you!