he wont answer

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Registered: 08-29-2003
he wont answer
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Wed, 03-31-2004 - 1:01pm
Hey, i took yall's advice and called him and he wont pick up the phone, i think he already got the message on the machine and now MM is just avoiding me, after tommorrow i will probably be moving to the ending affair board b/c MM is going to find out and that's going to be the end for the A, even though i dont wont it to end but i wont have a choice once the other guy tells him, it will be my word against his. He's going to make MM think i am the worse person in the world. Now i wont never hear goodbye from him and having those words i love you will just keep popping in my head. i think i need to just run away and sit in a dark cave by myself so i dont allow myself to get hurt again.
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 1:14pm
Georgia, if he loves you, why do you think he'll take that jerk's word over yours?? You just have to get it in there that this guy is out to get you, one way or another. And that you only want MM. I'm sure he'll believe your side of the story, just have to get it to him!! Best wishes to you, hope you get it all resolved and soon!!

Dusty
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 1:28pm


For heaven sakes peach, calm down! I read the previous thread and now your latest post. One thing that strikes me is why you think your MM is going to believe the OM no matter how outragous his claims. If he does believe this bafoon, then you got a guy who you have been involved with for at least a year and he trust what this goon is saying as opposed to the woman that he has invested in emotionally at quite a risk I might add. I would like to think your MM has more sense than to trust what the OM is saying. Be honest and tell him EVERYTHING, if he doesn't believe you than you are better off without him.

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Registered: 01-02-2004
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 3:54pm
Georgia- I wouldn't jump to any conclusions just yet. At least give MM a chance to call you. I agree with omawxgirl, he may not believe this other guy anyway. The other guy sounds like a real jerk, and maybe MM will just ignore what he has to say. I agree, though, that you should tell him everything and give him the time and space he needs to make up his own mind.

((hugs))

Circe

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Registered: 08-29-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 4:05pm
well, i am thinking the worst about MM and I, i always think the worst and i know i need to stop it but i cant. I know that this guy is so upset with me because i would not give him a chance that he is going to not only tell the truth which is we have been just chatting like friends would do but he is also going to tell MM alot of lies like i cheated on MM with him. It's out of my hands now, as we speak MM has probably already been told and he probably doesnt even want to keep our friendship. This is not fair even though i know life isnt but im not even getting to make the decision to call it quits, this jerk/bafoon is. He has used my info against me and my friendship and took advantage of it b/c he knows i dont wont him and he's never going to have me so he's just trying to see if he can really tear our relationship apart and knowing MM, he has this i dont care attitude and he will probably be like f... it, whatever. I invested alot of my time and energy into our A and if he listens to him and believes his lies than MM never did love me and this was just him having his cake and eating it too. How do i know that the other guy is lieing about these stories, MM possibly could be cheating on me and his w with another girl. I dont know i cant always say once a cheater, always a cheater b/c i know once this is over and i have that gut feeling it is, i will not get involved with another A, so no i dont believe that statement. What hurts is the most and i know yall have probably heard me say it before is i was just about to let go of this a month ago and i decided to just call him and if he didnt answer then that would be it and to my surprise he did answer, and i was telling him how i was sick and he was acting caring and told me i needed to go to the dr. and he really seemed like he wanted to know about what i was doing, And then i found out he felt the same way, now it's been 1 mth since we talked and i havent received an im, email or even a phone call so yea i do have my suspicions that he very well maybe cheating on me, to me it seems like the signs are there, no contact for weeks and still nothing. I dont know how i am going to be able to deal with this but honestly i dont care anymore, i love MM with everything i have but i cant stress myself out like this, A friend came over and tried to support me but she just told me to say forget it and give him the same attitude that he has been giving me (she knows about A b/c we all worked together and she was the one who noticed he was checking me out) anyways, i guess i will just have to sit here and wait, and wait. I just keep asking myself if he has fooled around with someone, why couldnt he have just told me. Do u think i should be upset with MM or do u think MM should be mad at me for telling this guy our business. I dont know very confused right now, and i dont see it getting better. well thanks for your support and i guess until it is over, i will stay posting. take care guys!!!
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Registered: 09-30-2003
Wed, 03-31-2004 - 6:08pm
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Edited 10/1/2004 7:07 pm ET ET by sally289