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Is he worth it?
| Tue, 09-16-2003 - 5:48pm |
Well, my OM and I have been talking a lot on the phone. It turns out, we deeply care about each other. We both love our families and we said we won't leave them for each other. We're just hoping that one day, circumstances will just lead us to each other. He's pretty content with just emails and talking on the phone. I don't know if it's just me but I want more, not sex but I want to spend time with him. He lives far from me, which may be a good thing. I love my H with all my heart but I don't know exactly how I feel about OM. Is it possible to have the same feelings for both? I've had discussions with OM about the future. Unless we both are willing to leave our families, we can't be together. At the same time, he treats me like a princess, just like my H. I'm so confused why I feel so strongly about OM. There are times when I wanna end it with OM but I can't. I know it will bring a lot of hurt. I don't even know if I'm keeping OM around just in case my H leaves me. My M to H is still good. Like I said, I love my H with all my heart, I'll die for him. But I can't let go of OM. He's just as sweet as H. OM and I talk as if we were M. Like when I get mad at him, OM tries to do whatever he can to make up with me. OM sweeps me off my feet. See, we both love our families but we wanna be together. For some reason though, we both can't leave our families. It's so weird. Is anyone in the same situation? I just need your input.

I understand how you feel. I have a pretty happy M, and OM is M with 2 kids, i have no kids, and he says he never wants to put his kids through the same things he went through when his parent's got D. I also don't see myself leaving DH. Its not that i am the happiest with him. Often i feel neglected, or annoyed by him, and dream of better days in the future with OM, but wonder what that will be like, and when? He lives in The Netherlands, I live in Finland, its all a mess really. But we are commited to communicate with eachother as much as possible, and the feeling I had when i was with him was debilitating. help--