Health Update and other Misc. Crap...

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2004
Health Update and other Misc. Crap...
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Mon, 05-10-2004 - 9:32am
Hi All-

Well,had my surgery last thursday and all went well. Am very stiff and sore but am hanging in there.

Did my MM send me an email to ask how I was or even reply to the one I sent last Wed afternoon before I left work? No.

'nuff said, right?

I am sad I lost the friendship- that's what hurts most of all. The non-caring aspect of it all....

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 9:40am
V - what surgery did you have?

Forget about the MM. He is not worth your attention, in my opinion.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2004
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 9:56am
Ovarian cancer. Surgery was to remove everything.

You're right- my time of grieving over this MM needs to come to an end and fast.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 10:06am
V - I am sorry about your health. Hope you get better soon. Friendships come to end all the time V, you just need to accept the fact. I am sure you will one day, today might be the day to cry over it. (((((Vles64)))))
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 12:20pm
V - Sorry to hear about your health.

~Flirty~

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 11:31am
Just wanted to say I hope you are feeling better and my thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

I think I am one of those naive people who read into everything OM says and does so take this with a grain of salt. I think it is possible MM just doesn't know how to deal with your illness or what to say to you. It could also be he was really getting attached but and doesn't want to face the fact he could lose you. Maybe once you are "clear" of this health issue, things will go back to "normal".

In any event, you need to concentrate on yourself right now and getting better. Good luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-19-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 11:49am


V,

Hope it’s a speedy recovery for you. Think about this issue in this way. This guy is probably not even a good person to begin with because leaving the A and love and romance aside even as a person one cares about other people in their times of sickness. Would you really want to love and spend your life with such a person who is so uncaring about others? Feel lucky that you are not the wife who is stuck with such a jerk. Forget about a woman whom one has kissed and flirted with, if it’s a dog on the street that is sick and bleeding one would take care of it. You are a person.

V just try to get over it. Don't think of it in a way that he rejected you. Think of it in a way that this person is a huge emotional mess leading a troubled life with his wife and who is unworthy of your attention, utter a prayer for him and you and move on.

PG

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 1:25pm
I was doing fine until yesterday.... he emailed.

I have not read it and do not plan to until I feel 'ready'. I'm sure it's nothing too major as it is a reply to an email I sent last week before I took my leave. However, I am working hard on myself to leave it in the Archive bin and not open it.

BUT ( there's always a but, right???)...... I AM human, which means I am as stupid/weak as I am smart/strong. Eventually, I WILL read it. But I am wanting to make it through this week w/o it. Maybe next week I'll open it.

Only I can put myself back on the roller coaster. I need this 'ride' to be closed- permanently.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-22-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 1:29pm
Thanks- I'm in the same category as you T, however, I would not call us naive (although I know most will), I 'd call us 'wishful thinkers' or just plain 'dreamers'.

Your kind words are much appreciated!

V.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 6:08pm
V I feel for you. You sound a little beaten around too much like me. Hope you recover soon and join the bar at ivillage that Summer Breeze posted about in her post. I am sure that will help you a lot in your situation. :-)

Here's to wishing for a better future.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-19-2003
Wed, 05-12-2004 - 8:45am
Hi V,

Wishing you a speedy recovery. Everyone is right..focus on you right now. Gee, I'm sure MM has no idea what to say or do. Ovarian cancer. That is tough. I had something internally wrong with my boob (it looked great from the outside) and my OM wouldn't even touch it for a long while. Guys are guys right, and we love them anyway. Maybe your situation has changed since I've been here in a while. You are married right? Do you want to leave your H? If not, just lighten up with this. Heck, you have an e-mail from a hot guy who you have a crush on. Guys can sense when we are being too serious and when we are just having fun. With all you have on your mind right now, it's probably best to just have no contact with him. When you are feeling better respond to his e-mail. You may have several from him by then. Thinking of you, C