Hearing things you don't want to hear
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Hearing things you don't want to hear
| Wed, 06-17-2009 - 4:44pm |
My AP's wife is my friend, and it never stops hurting when I hear intimate details of their lives together at home. My AP has always been honest about his private life, and I know more details than I should because I am friends with his wife, too. But even with the knowledge of the problems in their relationship, and the fact that he's choosing to be in this secret relationship with me, I'm still ready to end it every time I hear that they've had sex, or he's done something especially nice for her. I know tht makes me sound like a horrible, selfish person, because I am married, too, and I love my husband and we still have a great sex life. What is your take on all of this?

Just my .02, but I think it makes it all extra exciting. Knowing things she doesn't know, having the whole story, having AP in ways she doesn't know. . .the ultimate A!
-jana
He and I have had so many ups and downs and just lately we are at peace and all is right in our world. I've felt more comfortable expressing myself to him, and exactly what I feel for him. We love each other and want to keep things going as long as possible, but with no end in sight, no dreams of a shared future...it almost makes the really, really good times seem extra sad.
Have you found a way to make peace with only having a part of him? And knowing that you can never be out in the open?
I know what you mean about it being hard since the W is your friend.
I had to respond because I am/was in the exact situation you are in.
There were so many things that she said to me about their relationship that made me want to end everything.