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| Tue, 07-20-2010 - 9:16pm |
Hi I have been having an affair with my brother in law for about 3 months. This last week he stopped letting me touch him or cuddle him. We live in the same house. I talked about it with him last night and he told me he wants things to go back to the way they were before we started messing around. The problem is that I am so very depressed now. My husband doesn't give me the attention I need and my brother in law gave me plenty attention. So now I am heartbroken and can't get over him. Every time I look at him I t makes me want to cuddle him. I want to be with him not my husband but I know I have no chance with that. Any advice would be great thank you

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Kaylee I remember your post from a while ago.
Hi Kaylee,
Girl you went there with the brother-In-law, not good. I think its a good idea that he stopped things before your H found out. If he ever did then your AP would be out on the streets and possibly you. Having an A is one thing but when its with family or a good friend things get really chaotic. I wouldnt wish that on you. You seem to not love your H anymore, have you considered leaving him? And leaving to be with your brother-in-law isn't any better the entire family will resent you.
Please be careful and hopefully he will find an apartment and you and your H will have some space to work things out or for you to do some soul searching.
Best of luck to you!
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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u r his first and only girl? how old is this guy? 17? too wierd. you need to find a therapist ASAP AND get this boy out of your house. or you need to apologize to him, tell him how messed up you are, and let him know that it will not happen again. if u r older, u MUST be the rational adult.
ok may I ask you why do you think you can't be with your H's brother if you truly love him & want to be with him ? if your H's brother also feels the same way about you , you have every right to be together as long as you are willing to end it with H first .
You said you would leave your H in a snap for his brother , so you need to gather some courage & leave your H . Otherwise you will keep thinking about your H's brother & will remain miserable with your H .