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Registered: 03-30-2004
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:35am
I tried to seduce OM last night when his g/f was away on vacation by falling on him on his truck at the parking lot. He pushed me away. :( Can anybody give me tips as to how to seduce this man into an affair? We have been in an affair before. I am a beautiful girl with a model like figure. I have 38 C size boobs and a long curvy legs. I have been told I can be a Playboy Playmate. Isn't that enough to entice him?? What kind of guy is he who doesn't fall for my charms? TIA

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-16-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:38am
You may the most beautiful girl in the world, but if he has a girlfriend he may just not be interested. I'm sure it's nothing personal, but maybe he's not looking at having an affair. Have you two been in an A before? You didn't put many details in your post, so I don't really have much to go on. I'm sure you a bright, smart, beautiful girl...why go after someone who is pushing you away?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:43am
I seem to recall your postings in the past - and many cautions that you jump on to stir things up.

A reminder that those of us relying on this board are looking for support and non-judgemental replies. We have our reasons for our situations, but what you describe isn't one of them.

That being said, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and agree with the other poster. If he pushes you away, he doesn't want you. Period. Find someone who's available and actually interested in you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:46am
You are back again! Woman, when are you going to realize that these men are not going to have an affair with you. Period. It doesn't matter if you are beautiful or whatever. You know you could get into trouble if you continue this behaviour. One day he is going to loose his patience and put you behind bars. Good Luck. Don't say we didn't warn you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:01am
Yes, we did have an affair before he met his g/f. I was married then to my second husband. He used to talk to all the time in the office, he used to go out for lunch with me and joke with me. If that isn't an affair what is it then?!?!?!?! :(

I WANT him. I am obsessed with him. I divorced my XH to get closer to him. All this for nothing. Someday he might actually return my overture you know?? I love him with all my heart!!!!!!!! I cannot live without him!!!!!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-04-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:09am
OK. I'll "benefit of the doubt" you too. And with that in mind... I'll give you the honest male perspective as near as I can based on this post and prior posts. Caution: the truth may hurt.

S&B... you seem to be on the fringes of psychotic or sociopathic. No man worth having with a girlfriend, wife, lover, or jealous dog is going to fall prey to your chasing. Once we reach a certain age as men (and early if we have some experience) we can tell which women have a genuine interest, which women want to have us only because someone else has us, and which women are the ones to STAY AWAY FROM.

If I'm with someone, and another woman throws herself at me the way you did... well, to be blunt I can smell the problems in the wind. I would never, ever expect it to end at sex, and I would feel absolutely certain that you were an incredible security risk to my current state of existence. I would never expect you to be happy with just an affair, I would expect you to try to break up whatever relationship I had... and then I'd expect you to dump me and move on.

Face it: if you're setting your sights on great guys, the odds are they (a) won't cheat; and (b) wouldn't cheat with you if they were going to. We start to figure out which women to stay away from when we're 21 or so, and then around 25 or 26 we actually start staying away from them. There is no woman so attractive we will throw away happiness. There are, however, women so wonderful we will risk status quo for something better... but that has almost nothing to do with looks and everything to do with how she treats us. Throwing yourself at someone is not respectful of their relationship or their ethics. That's not usually what we're looking for.

Good luck. I'll repeat mine and everyone else's earlier advice from a week or so ago: seek counseling. Finding your self confidence in seducing other women's men is a long, unhappy way to go through life.


rain

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-04-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:19am
Just read this latest post. I retract my benefit of the doubt. You can't be serious. You really have to be fishing for a fight... no one over 16 is really this misguided... are they?

Lunch and jokes is not an affair. Lunch and jokes are playful at best. People don't get divorced over being caught at lunch saying," A priest, a cowboy and a rabbi walk into a bar..."

I'll give you the obsession. If this is real, it absolutely is obsession, I completely agree with you. If you really divorced someone in hopes of getting more than lunch and jokes... well, you seriously, desperately need to seek counseling.

I really hope you're just trying to stir things up. If not... sweetie, you are an individual who needs professional help.

rain

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:27am
Im not falling for her BS I think she is a troll. I dont think it has anything to do with an affair I think its her HEAD! Sorry to be so blunt but I just think she needs help.

Next time I will use my ignore button.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:30am
You are right! I see a lot of posters here who keep posting and posting the same thing over and over again all the time. Maybe I should take your lead and denounce them as trolls so that they don't post here anymore and waste our valuable time. Good idea!! Ignore is right!!

BTW, if she is troll she is a lousy one. LOL .There have been better ones before who seem to blend in until they disappear. LOL...


Edited 4/9/2004 11:32 am ET ET by julietsfate

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:39am
You don't know what an affair is? I'll tell you. An affair is a heart-wrenching, emotionally exhausting, blissful and painful, bittersweet experience. It has nothing to do with trying to seduce and screw somebody else's boyfriend just because you are fixated on the idea that you have to have him.

Either you have too much free time on your hands and need to get a life, or you need to see a mental health professional.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:46am
you hit it right on the head boston - AMEN!

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