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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 10:35am
I tried to seduce OM last night when his g/f was away on vacation by falling on him on his truck at the parking lot. He pushed me away. :( Can anybody give me tips as to how to seduce this man into an affair? We have been in an affair before. I am a beautiful girl with a model like figure. I have 38 C size boobs and a long curvy legs. I have been told I can be a Playboy Playmate. Isn't that enough to entice him?? What kind of guy is he who doesn't fall for my charms? TIA

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Registered: 04-10-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Sat, 04-10-2004 - 10:41am
I cannot live without him. He is my soulmate. He doesn't know that but I do. :(
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Registered: 01-03-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Sat, 04-10-2004 - 11:04am


I've tried to stay out of this thread, but I don't think I can anymore.

Plymte, you say that you love him and that he's your soulmate. I'm sure you think that means that he'll be far happier with you in his life.

But part of being a soulmate involves trusting in the other person's judgment of what they need in their life. You want what's best for _him_. Sometimes, that's _not_ you.

Just as we have to give our children roots to ground them, we have to give them wings and let them fly. The same applies to our soulmates. The very _most_ I would do in your situation is to very quietly tell him that I care and that if he needs something, he can call me. After that, I'd step aside, knowing that my love provides part of the wings he can count on to soar.

IOW, if you really love him, you'll respect his desires and wish him the very, very best. It hurts. It's not fun. But it _is_ love in action.

Good luck.



Cazrida

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Registered: 03-29-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Sat, 04-10-2004 - 2:30pm
If you are serious (which I don't, I think you're a troll...but who knows...)

"If you love something, set it free. If it loves you, it will come back to you."

Trying to get a man who has NO interest in you is the most self-destructive thing you can do to yourself.

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Registered: 04-10-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Sat, 04-10-2004 - 7:11pm
How do you know I am a troll? Have you been roaming around as a troll? I have already said I am a real person with real issues. Self destructive - hmmmm, how do you know that? From personal experience also?
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Registered: 11-19-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Sat, 04-10-2004 - 7:52pm
You need to post in the mentally deranged board than here. JMHO
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Registered: 03-04-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 9:46am
How do we know you're a troll, dearie?

Well, first of all, you're operating under at least two aliases here, and I believe I've seen you post with a third. Anyone who keeps so many names and faces in already private places isn't terribly trustworthy...

Second, your posts always push the envelope of content. This is not a "how to seduce" board. It is a board where people having affairs come to discuss the challenges and pain of those situations from both sides.

An internet troll, by definition, is someone who goes into a group/message board/mailing list/etc. and posts something intended to demean, inflame or otherwise counter the general feelings of most of the people there. Your posts have said over and over that you "have to have" this guy yet you haven't done *anything* with this person. You just lay bait out, "trolling" the waters to see if you get a reaction, if you get a hit. And I suppose to your credit you have inspired a good many of us to reply to you.

You have further downplayed the value of others' affairs by saying "I had an affair with him; he went to lunch and he told me some jokes." Other people here are dealing every day with emotional and physical two way relationships that have a real and definite beginning but not foregone conclusion.

I can't speak for everyone, but for me, this has been the most testing and trying period in my life. I've had lunch with someone I really wanted to date... a girl I'd tried to get interested for a year. She laughed at my jokes. She came to see my band. She seemed very interested. She still wouldn't go out with me. And I'm telling you, that disappointment and difficulty PALES in comparison to what I've been through this past year, and I know that the OW has gone through much more.

So with all due respect... save it. You are a real person with real issues, that much is true. But they are not the ones you profess to share with us. Your real issue is whatever causes you to troll a board of sincere and open people in order to get attention for what may or may not be a real situation but is most definitely not an affair.

rain

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 9:52am
Good post rain! I am sick of S&B myself. Psst, where is the "how to seduce" board?? teheehee
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Registered: 03-24-2004
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 10:32am
Heya switch... I'm sorry for what you are going through whatever that may be. It's not my place to judge wether you are a troll or not, whether you are deranged or psychotic. If you are going through these emotions than they are heartwrenching at best and totally debilitating at other times, so I can totally understand the crazy actions at times believe me! Obsession, at times... I've felt that about him... crazy in love.. been there. You've come for some support and that is what this place is supposed to be. Until you reveal other colors I will not try to cut you down. But hon, I do think that you should channel all that energy and obsession into something more personally up-building. Take some time to meditate on your life and your feelings and find something else that makes you happy. You never know..when he sees you doing that, focusing your attentions elsewhere..he might just want you after all. Make him chase you a bit.

Good luck in life.

sujata

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 10:36am
How kind you are sujataslost! I could never be so sweet and nice to a person who for all purposes is a troll. We could use a lot of sane and kind people like you on this planet. I agree she needs to meditate more and channel her energies somewhere else.
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Registered: 11-19-2003
In reply to: switch_and_bait
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 1:35pm
I agree!!

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