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| Thu, 03-11-2004 - 10:31am |
Where do I start? I love this site - it makes me feel like I'm not the only one in the world that is going through this. I'm a very independent MW who is separated - I keep saying i"m going through a mid-life crises but everyone says I'm too young (32) - however my mom died at 40 (I was 19) so that probably has something to do with it. I've been married for 7 years we have 1 child. My H is great - wonderful - great dad - but there is nothing there - we separated in Jan. but it devastated him. He has me on this pedastal way high - I have always hated that. In October I met another MM - we were just friends- I was helping him with school work - we hung out all the time - from moment one I could sense he was into me - I was way into him - scared me to death. I am now separated - he is finalizing things on his end. I have no doubt WHATSOEVER that this is right - we communicate, have great sex, love spending time together, have everything in common. I was honest with H and told him about BF but on his end - he is just leaving - not telling her why which is fine. We have both dealt with extremem guilt, pain, fear, all that - together and separate. It is way terrifying but I know it is right - he does too - Problem though -he is convinced I will change my mind and leave him - do it again - I have tried to convince him but he keeps having nightmares that wake him up about me with someone else. He jumps at the drop of a dime and gets angry when I say he is overreacting. He says its because of how we met and got together - I understand that but don't have the same reactions since I believe we are soulmates. He believes that too and cannot stay away from me - we've tried - but how does he overcome his fear?
Any advice would be awesome.

hi poorbear39 and welcome to the board!
only time and trust will overcome MM's fear(s).
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board