HELP!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-18-2003
HELP!
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:02pm
I was told by my ex-boyfriend that he still has feelings for me(he is married to a friend of mine) I am also married and have the same feelings for him. I have no intention to have an affair but,was wondering what do I do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2004
In reply to: mamasita3
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:20pm
Hello dear welcome to the board. If you really truly have no intentions of having an affair, tell him you think it's flattering that he feels that way, keep your feelings to yourself, see him as little as possible and if you can't forget him, try creating an avid fantasy life for yourself. Any other course of action, casual meetings, flirting, attempts to be "just friends" will probably lead down the road to an A. And if you do wind up in an EMA you're welcome here any time.

Mack

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-13-2003
In reply to: mamasita3
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 2:23pm

Mama, you want my help so please understand that I can't tell you what to do, this is only my suggestion:
but RUN the other way as fast as you can.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
In reply to: mamasita3
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 4:58pm
I agree ... if you are not sure this is what you want to do(AN A) run like H*LL

an A is not an easy thing to be involved in.I wish someone had told me what was in store for me before I started seeing my MM, but now that I am here its not so easy to just walk away, not that I want to. I guess what I am trying to say is to think long and hard before you get involved, think about it you can truely handle the bad that goes with the good

Good luck

SB

 Seeburg    

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: mamasita3
Tue, 02-17-2004 - 6:22pm

Hi Mama,


"I have no intention to have an affair" then I have to ask... what are you doing here???


Hon... I'm not being nasty or anything... but I do believe that those who find themselves here... certainly do at least consider an affair.

Sweet
Co-Community Leader My

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-28-2003
In reply to: mamasita3
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 9:45am
Would agree, turn and run, because later it is too hard to let go, and it becomes a whole different ball game, wants you have invested a part of your life to a man, that is not yours to begin with...

Good Luck, Mitzy