Help with an affair.....

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2009
Help with an affair.....
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Mon, 06-08-2009 - 1:28pm
So I have been reading the discussion boards and looking for help, however my situation seems a little different.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2008
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 2:00pm
Its a sexual A,continue only if you are okay with that status.If the guy was feeling anything, he would have let you know.
To end a sexual A is not difficult.Just say its not working for you,thats it.No discussion ,nothing.But if you are willing to go ahead,you might be disappointed if he doesnt reciprocate your feelings.
Being in 30s is being young.You have an entire life ahead of you.Now you dont want anything from this guy but what if/when you fall in love then you would want a lot.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2009
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 6:35pm

Thank you for the advice, it is greatly appreciated!

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2009
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 7:05pm

start off from asking yourself why you don't know how to end it. are there there fears? do you run different "what if" scenarios inside your head?
try a no contact for a week or even a month to give yourself time to think.
look for support outside of on-line, like community support groups that are about unhealthy relationships or maybe try therapy.

i am no saint and have a long way to go myself but the more i live my life being 100% honest to myself and others, the less complicated life is.
for me, it is very easy to give into temptation and then almost impossible for me to get out. i'm learning to step back for a moment, look at the situation and say thanks but no thanks.
hope this helps and good luck