HELP! SOOO Angry

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Registered: 04-02-2004
HELP! SOOO Angry
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Tue, 04-06-2004 - 8:24am
I need some objective advice. I'm in the midst of an arguement with H. My best friend reserved a timeshare in Cancun for a week later this month. She invited me and a couple other girls to go with her and stay free. H doesn't want me to go. I'm not sure if he just doesn't trust me (which of course makes me feel guilty), but i'm really upset about it. I WANT TO GO! He says it's wrong for me to go away with the girls.

The truth is that initially, when I told OM about the trip, he was going to fly out and spend a couple of days with me. But after talking it through, we decided it wouldn't be such a good idea. He doesn't want to make things harder for me, and honestly, I think I really need the time away from both H and OM to clear my head and think a little. So I could honestly say to H that this is for ME, and I'm not doing anything wrong. But he doesn't want me to go, and he's trying to guilt me out of it. He admits he can't TELL me what to do, but I can't bring myself to make the airline reservation as long as he's pissed about it. I'm really not doing this to hurt him. But I'm running out of time, and I'm going to lose the airfare deal I was getting.

Does anyone think it's wrong for a married woman to want to take a vacation with her girlfriends? Am I off my rocker here? HELP!

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Registered: 10-22-2003
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 8:43am
I'm going away with girlfriends in a couple months. Looking forward to the trip is the only thing keeping me sane right now. I think it is important to be able to go and do things on your own. My suggestion would be to talk to H again and try to figure out exactly why he doesn't want you to go. Reassure him that it isn't about him at all. It's about time away with the girls. Let him know you'd support him if he decides to take some time away with the guys. Tell him you promise you'll call while you are away and then go book the plane tickets.

At least, that's what I'd do if it was me. But then again, my H goes off all the time without me so I don't feel the slightest bit bad doing the same.

GB2

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 8:45am
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you wanting a vacation with the girls! It's extremely healthy to just have girl time and "get away from it all." I cherish time with my girlfriends....we even plan "Girl's Night Out" where we do nothing more than hang out at one girls' house, have some homemade margaritas and watch chick flicks. Guys get to hang with their friends, we deserve time for ourselves, too. Not only do we deserve it, we need it. Tell your H that you just need some fun girl time....sometimes we just need a retreat...some mindless fun.

Keep your chin up! Good luck convincing him. Cancun sounds yummy! Wish I could go!

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Registered: 04-02-2004
Tue, 04-06-2004 - 9:59pm


Just wanted to update you to let you know that after arguing with H all day, I finally booked my trip tonight, regardless of how he feels about it.

I'M GOING TO CANCUN!!!

Thanks for the advice :)

Angel

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Registered: 02-16-2004
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 9:01am
Have an AWESOME time in Cancun! Have a margarita for me! You deserve this trip!!!
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Registered: 04-02-2004
Thu, 04-08-2004 - 9:14am
Wow, thanks so much. It's nice to have people to talk to.

I love this board :)