Help! What do I do??!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-10-2004
Help! What do I do??!!!
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Thu, 05-20-2004 - 12:44pm

I can't believe after 4 years it's come down to this. He'll only do email. No phone calls. He's upset because he thinks, he feels I haven't been honest with him. He's the M one.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2003
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 1:16pm
Say you don't want to do anything with him anymore and mean it. Don't let him make decisions for you. If you think the freaking limbo is killing you, you should stop this A right now. Its not good to be in an unhealthy one-sided R, esp if you are single and free. Its not fair to you. Don't let him walk all over you and your heart. Good Luck!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2003
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 3:33pm
Hi HHMH,

This is what you must do.

Do not contact him in anyway. Starting right now. Don't warn him that you are not going to contact him. Just stop all contact. Make him work for you. You have probobly been making everything too easy for him. Men love the chase - you have to continually create tension in a romantic relationship or it will become too familiar and fade away.

He will come running eventually. This works like a charm - but it can be very tough.

If he doesn't, then it's over and you are much better off without him.

HFL