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Help..Confused..
| Tue, 08-04-2009 - 9:51pm |
Hello Everyone,
I have never posted on this board altho i have lurked here a lot. I posted on EAS, but i know that i can't post this on there now..
i've been in an A for just over a year now with a coworker. We're both M. Started out as me wanting to have some fun. Silly me. We both fell in love or at least it felt that way i'm not sure that it's real love, as i've learnt that As are not real love..or i could be wrong..i'm confused..

If you're already cheating after just recently being M, then you have a big problem that only you yourself can solve. Why do you think it's acceptable to cheat when you should still be in a honeymoon phase with your H. How would you feel if your H did that to you? Can you handle the fall-out and consequences should your H find out. Can you live with yourself knowing you've caused someone such pain? These are hard questions you need to face and understand. Maybe a professional can help you sort this stuff out and if I were in your shoes, in a T's couch is where I'll be.
Look, a man who cheats will make a play at a woman who'll give him the time of day. They can smell that stuff like flies on poop. Whatever feel good you're getting from this clown, find a way to get it from your H. If you both need to go MC, do it. Don't risk ruining your M for someone who you already know have no qualms in cheating on his W and risking the livelihood of his children.
Otherwise, if the problems between you and your H can't be repaired and you'll always be pining for your AP, do the right thing and let your H go so he can be with someone who's not a cheat.
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For one, I feel that you need to give your marriage a fighting chance, and that's not going to happen while you're involved with this guy.
You are both getting something from this affair: you are getting attention from him, and you're giving him a sort of power over you.