Help!Lying to 2 men
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Help!Lying to 2 men
| Thu, 10-08-2009 - 8:14am |
Ok, so here's the deal.I have been with my bf for almost 5 years now.Things have been pretty bad for almost 2 years now, but because I don't like conflict or change, I have adapted to it although it's been hard.Anyway, about 2 months ago, I ran into an old high school friend whom I hadn't seen in over 10 yrs.Actually, he found me through Facebook.Anyway, we decided to get together for coffee.Well, there was chemistry instantly.I knew that he had broke up with his ex and moved back home about a yr prior(one of our mutual friends had told me).Anyway, he made the comment "so i see your engaged".Well, i told him that it was complicated but no I wasn't.Anyway, i felt weird talking about it so I changed topics.Well, he invited me to hang out with him that weekend at a friends BBQ, and I did.Well, by the end of the night, I was definetly getting the"more than friends"vibe, and before I left, he kissed me.Well, it felt great:)We started texting each other regularly, and met up every few days.It felt so good being with him, he's funny,caring,and not to mention HOT!lolAnyway, i really didn't know where things were going but I was enjoying the time we had together.The topic of my"relationship"never came up, and I was greatful but then I started to wonder if he realized i was still with my bf.The reason i qustioned this is because he would make comments like"maybe i'll come up to your place".Well, as soon as I suspected this, I really should have asked him if he knew that i was not technically"available", but i didn't dare.I was afraid that he would end things, and

Hi chicka,
Sorry about your dilemna.
Yes, I went through that phase when I said it would be easier and comfortable to stay with H. It may be easy but ease and comfort dont equal happiness. I know it's hard because you see him everyday and think of how hurt he would be. Once you are actually away it gets easier. Yes, I do have a sense of freedom being seperated and doing my own thing.
Just keep working towards you and your daughter's happiness. I dont have kids but I hear that they bounce back easily. My mother
hey there:)Well, I checked my FBook this morning and there was a message from AP.He said that he had got home last night.He said that he had "alot of fun"during his trip away, and for me to give him a shout when i was free.So now I stuck wondering how much or what kind of"fun"he had.I know that sounds really paranoid, but he has mentioned(in the past)how sometimes he wishes he hadn't moved back home, that he really loves the city.And that's where he went this weekend.He has also told me about the wild parties his friend(the one he stayed with) has, so I guess I'm just thinking worse case scenario, that he went up there and got buzzed up and met someone.I know, crazy thinking , right?Anyway, I guess I really don't have the right to be jealous considering im still somewhat involved, but the thought of losing AP is driving me nuts.So now, I'm dreading the phone call to AP, hoping I won't blurt anything out.Do you think I should ask him about the weekend?I'm almost scared too, but I want to.
Hey,
No, your thinking isnt crazy at all. I'm a jealous person. Who says we dont have a right to be jealous. It's a normal human emotion. When we love or care or even just like somebody in that way, we are going to have these feelings at some point in time.
Why not ask him. You can just casually say. "I'm glad you had fun, tell me about it." (Wow, that sounded kinda corny, maybe say it a little differently) There are times that I dont want to know exactly what AP has done when he goes out but I ask anyway because sometimes I would rather know than not know at all.
Before you call him, just breathe and try to stay calm. I dont think you'll blurt out anything. You'll be fine.
Keep me updated :)