He's Ignoring Me-Does this happen2u?
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He's Ignoring Me-Does this happen2u?
| Tue, 10-28-2003 - 1:31pm |
No sure if you all read my post, but I copied a letter that I sent to MM. It was kind of the first time I let him know that I wanted more than just sex with him and responding to a comment he made that made me think he was hoping for more. Well, he never responded at all. Nothing. I left him a voicemail and said that his lack of response answers all my questions and still nothing. I saw him yesterday (random) and this morning (random) in passing and he said hello, but that was it. I'm really hurt. I can't believe I let myself become so vulnerable. I emailed him today to let him know I was concerned about him over the weekend because of the fires, but I still haven't heard anything from him.
Does this ever happen to anyone else? Our relationship has been strange from the start, but it's gone on now for almost 9 months. I tried to maintain emotional control and not show any feelings and then he said something that made me think that he wanted me to and then when I did, he completely ignored me. I'm feeling really used and tossed aside by him right now and I have to say this feeling sucks.
I feel like a complete idiot.
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| Tue, 10-28-2003 - 1:48pm |
Well, it's possible he's got stuff going on, so you shouldn't necessarily take it personally. But yes, I've been through those periods where I can't seem to get in touch with MM. Nine times out of ten, he's just gotten called away on some piece of business he couldn't get out of, but it's interesting that this seems to happen more during periods where he's not all madly in love with me. (Times when he's feeling guilty!) I think during those times if something does come up, he's not quite so anxious about getting away to call or see me. If it's convenient for him to, he will, but otherwise he finds it more than okay to be detained doing something during the time he would be seeing me. I think we all know that if they really want to contact us, they will no matter what's going on in their lives. You can always find a second to whip off an e-mail or leave a voice message. Judging from his behavior, it sounds like he might be scared and feeling the need to back off a bit. If so, just give him his space. The more you call him and e-mail him and whatever, the more he's going to feel the need to run. I've tried this in the past and it's worked but I don't know your MM -- but you COULD try ignoring him when you pass him. Just dress up, make sure you look your absolute best, and act like you don't even notice he exists. It drives MM crazy when I do that, but unfortunately I've done it one too many times and he's onto me.
| Tue, 10-28-2003 - 1:56pm |
Thanks Lilah. I'm sure he does have a lot going on, but it just bugs me that he just completely did not respond. That's not acceptable for me! Maybe I'm just not cut out for this stuff. I don't know. But I do know that I miss him like crazy. It bugs me that I've seen him in the last two days and still nothing. I've ignored him in the past and it worked, but I guess it's different this time. I don't know. I'll back off a bit and see what happens. No more emails or calls.
