He's talking divorce..???
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| Wed, 12-24-2003 - 5:16pm |
What he IS saying as of yesterday is that his youngest sons Bday is January 14th. All the family on both sides are throwing a big party. After holidays and that party he is going to sit her down and discuss a plan of action. Je says he WANTS to be with me and doesn't think his wife is happy either...he is going to confront her and ask what she wants, is SHE happy, where does she see things going. He thinks she's just as miserable. He is honest and says he hopes it's amicable so he won't feel and look like the 'abandoner'. BUT he is also honest and says if she wants to WORK at it and get counseling that he will give it his all for the sake of his children. I told him that MY wnat was of course to be with him for the rest of my life BUT what I want more then that is for him to be happy and if that entails him working out his marriage and being with his kids then I fully support it.
Here's my question: DO I remain by his side until that day in January and then see what happens or would it be smarter to have NC until that day. There's a part of me that wants him to see what life would be like without me--even though it's only 3 weeks---BUT I also want to prepare myself for the outcome I really fear, him staying.
Opinions please on how to conduct myself.....
One friend say be there and SHOW him how serious I am about bein with him.....one friend says do a "takeaway" so he misses me....

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That was an awesome post!!! I have been one to lose myself in my relationship (not this A with MM, but a previous BF) and I can definitely say how unhealthy and damaging it can be.
Thanks so much for adding that insight to this discussion!!!
Annika
Brightest Blessings, Annika
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