Hi. I'm new here

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Hi. I'm new here
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 11:58am
I am new to this board and am trying to get my bearings.

I am in the process of separating from my H. I have a DD and a DS who I am very worried about in all of this. I have been seeing OM since July and am happier than I have ever been.

I would love to know a little about all of you. Are any of you planning to leave your H? etc. etc. etc.

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Registered: 02-03-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 12:18pm
Welcome Margarita -- we're all in different situations, united by a common thread. I'm a MW in an emotional/physical R with MM. While we both love our spouses, we fill a need in each other. Have no plans to be other than what we are today. Good luck with your new life. Let us know if we can help.
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Registered: 01-14-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 1:12pm
I'm in a similar situation. I'm currently working out details of a separation from my W. One complication in my situation though is that my W is carrying my child and will give birth in July. So I'm trying to stick around through that. But my decision has been made and I'm not sure she's going to want me to stay.

My OW and I are planning to proceed slowly in a relationship once I am out of the house. I do love her with all my heart though and I am also happier and more sure of myself than I have ever been.

Good luck in all the difficult things you're going through. Keep us updated as I enjoy hearing from others who are going through many of the same things I am.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 1:29pm
Wow. That does sound tough. It is great to hear from the "other side" JK!

I am totally in love with OM and can't wait to be with him, but he insists (& I DO know) that we need to give it some time since I am extremely vulnerable right now.

DH doesn't want to hear that it is over and that is making it very hard. Won't give any input into the kids, money, house, etc.

I found the perfect apartment (which I can actually afford) but it is available April 1 and now I feel like I have so much to do in such a small amount of time.

Thanks for your support.

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 1:47pm

hi margaritagirl and welcome to the board!


yes indeed, OM is right, you do need to take it slow in building YOUR new life.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 05-16-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 2:05pm
Hi Margaita.. welcome to the board. It's nice to come here and talk to people when you can't go to your friends with this.

I've been in a sexual A for a little over a year. We're both married. I've been m for 5 yrs. MM for 1 yr. 6 mo. I have a 4 yr. old. He has no children. We have no intention to go any further. Just like having sex with each other..lol

I'm not in love with H, and I want out of my M. I just have to wait till our dd is out of preschool. That's an extra 130 a month. plus I have a car payment, so moving out isn't an option. I guess If I got another job, but I guess I wanna ride it out and figure things out first before making any kind of Major decisions in what I want. If I do leave, then it's NOT for my mm. Just wanted to clear that up..lol

But welcome and post any time you need to..

Gina
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Registered: 06-18-2003
Tue, 03-09-2004 - 7:48am
Welcome.You'll find lots of support here.I'm Renee and have 1 DS whose 6 going on 26:)

I've been seeing my OM for about a month now.