His explanation for this time

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Registered: 12-24-2008
His explanation for this time
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Fri, 02-27-2009 - 8:12pm
Okay...AP left his wife for the 5th time 3 weeks ago....went back to her last week and sent me a text last Thursday saying he had made up with her, his love for her was more than ours and he was sorry, he would never do this to her again....well, we work together and after 3 days of him avoiding me, I couldn't bite my tongue. I caught him at the door the other morning and told him "you don't have to run away from me, I'm not going to BOTHER you" and he says "I'm not avoiding you, I told you we would talk" and I said, "whatever..the minute I pull into the parking lot you're out of your vehicle practically running in the door" so he says, "lets go talk now" so, we go to his vehicle and the first thing he says is "can i ask you a question...when you are out with your husband, anywhere, even in the stores, do you hold hands, walk arm in arm?" and i was like, what the hell are you talking about? Well, apparently, he had been hearing from some co-worker(s) that I had been seen with my husband and we were apparently laughing, holding hands and looked SO in love....long story short, he said that it upset him when he heard this and this person(s) had talked to him about the possibility that I was just playing him and maybe i was trying to get "revenge" for him hurting me in the past year by leaving me to go back to his wife. I was like, you honestly think I would do something like that? If I wanted revenge, I would've done it before now...I told him I have never lied and never played him and he was the one playing me when he was telling me one thing and his wife another. Well, he said that doing things my way was hard on him because he is weak when it comes to emotions and being alone...he cannot be alone and said he really needed me and not just texts here and there and a few days after work together but I told him that I HAVE to do things this way to protect myself and he understands that, but when he heard that about me and trying to deal with the pain of being alone, he couldn't do it. I know damn well the guilt thing from home was kicking in too, but he won't admit that. He says that he paid another month on his place and hasn't moved anything back home, although he is staying in his house....I asked him why and he said because he's not sure what he wants....I asked him what his wife wants and expects and he says that she wants him to get his head straightened out and figure out what he wants but knows he's not with her 100%. He says he is still in love with me and the text that I got was not sent by him...which I suspected because the way it was worded did not sound like him. His aunt who rents their rental next door is the one who grabbed his phone when they were all sitting at her house....she typed the text in, sent it to my number, then showed it to the both of them and said "there, your wife is the one who loves you and she's is who you need to be with!" then she handed him his phone and told him "now knock this sh*t off and start acting like man!"...so whatever...sorry for the long text! :)
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Fri, 02-27-2009 - 9:22pm
Ok gabby, take a deep breath.
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Registered: 12-24-2008
Fri, 02-27-2009 - 11:04pm
Thanks, jen...not saying I believe him and I'm not getting involved in anymore drama...just wanted to share my story with some of the gals that have been helping me out and giving me support....thought you'd all want to hear... :)
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sat, 02-28-2009 - 12:03am

Hi gabby,


I'm glad your not getting involved in the drama, I've had a bit of a drama day myself and found myself quite caught up in it today.

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Registered: 12-24-2008
Sat, 02-28-2009 - 12:12am
Oh, no offense taken....just wanted to let the gals who have followed my "soap opera" an update on the latest. I hear ya on the flu thing....I had to miss 2 days of work last week and burn up 2 days of vacation time!! :( Hope you are feeling better!
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Registered: 11-12-2008
Sat, 02-28-2009 - 11:50am

((( hugs)))

I cant believe this !! he tells you by text that he has gone back to his W ? I totally understand that leaving a M has never been an easy task but this is kinda ridiculous.

Dont get sucked back as he will try to keep you on the side.
cheer yourself up and keep well.

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Registered: 12-24-2008
Sat, 02-28-2009 - 1:36pm
Yeah...it is ridiculous. Just like last night, he texted me about how he could not get me out of his heart and his head and how he felt like he was losing his mind...told me that he loved me and would text me this morning ( he was work so he could text freely) but I didn't hear anything out of him, so i sent him just a 'good morning" text and he says that he's been thinking of me and the things he's heard ( about me supposedly being seen with my husband all lovey dovey) and that we need to talk LATER and that he doesn't want to be made a fool out of again.....HELLO?! Who is the one that has been made a fool out of in this relationship...?? It sure wasn't him! I know it's just a lie he's making up so that he can try and turn things against me and try and make me out to be the "bad" guy who's just out to get revenge on him and make him look like fool....whatever....another thing i found interesting this morning was how I received 3 calls all "unavailable" and no message was ever left when I didn't answer. I'm wondering if his W was calling me...I've talked to her once before about a year ago when she called me and wanted to know why I wouldn't leave HIM alone and let him work on his marriage....I told her that was such a joke and he was doing nothing but lying to her because he NEVER told me once to leave him alone, never told me that they were "working" on their marriage and by the way, never ever told me once that he loved her, of course, she accused me of being a liar so there's no sense in talking to someone who denies everything and won't listen. Gawd...this would be SO much easier if I hadn't fallen in love with the jerk in the first place.....