His silence means it's over?

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Registered: 03-27-2008
His silence means it's over?
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 9:27am

XAP & I have been having lots of problems lately.

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Registered: 06-28-2006
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 10:19am

NO your not in a confused situation. the fact that you know what is going on means u know what exactly is happening. he is constantly hurting you and u do not deserve it.


i'ma say it for u 'move on'. you say 'i just want him to say bug off'.. does this have to be in spoken words? arent his actions talking to you loud and clear? him ignoring your attempts to keep in contact only means your not that to him. honey u need someone who will treat u like a lady. some one who will do everthing he can just to get ur attention and make u smile.


he is an adult and he should know how to treat a lady regardless of what role the lady plays in his life. see if this is what you need and if him acting in this manner is unacceptable then move on. you deserve to be happy. not thinkin of ways you can try not to anger him.


p.s re therapist i wouldnt know any but from reading the posts on here, #1 thing i can suggest is to detox ur self of this man.. am assuming u never needed any therapists b4 he got into ur life. please tell us more..

x Cardbury x
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Registered: 10-08-2009
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 11:28am
His silence is telling you everything you need. ACTIONS speak louder than words. He either doesn't have the guts to tell you to leave him alone or he's figuring by not responding to you, you'll get the hint.
Happened to me all the time when I was in my A. Then I realized he wasn't worth it at all.
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Registered: 01-23-2010
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 11:35am
Why in the world would you allow someone else's H treat you badly. You are right, you should find a therapist ASAP. Why does HE have to tell you to bug off. It seems like you are putting yourself in an abusive situation. You have the power to stop allowing him to treat you that way. When you lay down and let ppl treat you like a doormat they will do it and it's not their fault it's yours.
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Registered: 03-25-2010
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 11:52am
Edited by me.


Edited 3/31/2010 11:13 am ET by cove70
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Registered: 04-23-2009
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 4:04pm

Hello dreamzofu ~