His wife called me today...

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Registered: 11-05-2003
His wife called me today...
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Wed, 03-03-2004 - 3:59pm
i've ended this relationship a few months ago. he & i really have not that much contact over the last few months. a hi & bye message here & there, nothing major. i'm moving on & things are well and THEN she calls me at work! very rude, cursing, making threats. she has very little proof...saw an email that he sent saying hi & she went totally crazy. she called 3 times today & said that she's coming to my job & she's going to ruin my life...

not really sure how to deal with this...any thoughts?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 4:13pm
Just deny, deny, deny. You said its been over for awhile? Well did she JUST find out about it? Its understandable if she's really angry and upset. But hopefully she will calm down and I wouldn't really worry about her coming to your workplace. That was probably said in anger.

Once she settles down, she'll realize it's her H she should be confronting, not you. Maybe you should email MM and tell him what's happened and ask him to get the heat off you. After all its not fair to you. He should take his responsibility for what's happened.

Dusty
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 4:22pm

hi romeosmommy -- sorry you're dealing with this mess, especially since it's ended and over.

CL-Gurlfriend50

Co-CL of My Affair Support Board

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Registered: 11-05-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 4:36pm
thanks for your all of your responses. i called him earlier to tell him what was going on & i haven't heard from him since. i understand that she's angry & upset, but i'm having a hard time dealing with women who handle situations in this manner. i'm sure if it was me, i would be on a tirade...with my HUSBAND! not the other woman. but i guess that's easier said than done. i really hope they find a way to work this out. i do care for him a great deal & i want them to be happy.

we'll see what happens.

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 4:41pm

i agree mommy - i've never understood why the OW/OM gets the brunt of the anger, instead of the other partner having the A.

CL-Gurlfriend50

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Sun, 03-07-2004 - 1:22am
i revealed the EMA to xMM's W, so i had her number. when she began harassing me at the office (he gave her my info -- full name, phone numbers -- out of GUILT!) i just let her screw herself over. she called me incessantly to talk trash, & coincidentally she worked only 5 blocks away. one day she decided to phone my company's equivalent of "internal affairs" to complain that I was harrassing HER. idiot. we all worked at huge, international firms -- xMM & the W @ one, i at the other. unbeknownst to me 'internal affairs' was monitoring my outgoing & incoming calls & subsequently phoned me to go downtown to HQ. i had no idea why at the time. on the day in question i'd phoned her approx 3 - 4 times, which wouldn't have raised any flags since her firm provided service to mine. SHE, on the other hand, had called me approx 37 times that day. she & xMM were immediately fired, because of course she tried to justify her insanity by revealing that her husband & i had been involved at one time.

my suggestion is to watch your back, make sure u can protect yourself, & unless she physically confronts you, let the maniac hang herself.

good luck.